A few years ago I attended a one-day course in Microsoft Outlook, learning how to use the email application in a better and more efficient way.
The teacher talked us through task lists, calendars and inbox management and she drilled into us the four golden rules – Do it, Delete it, Delay it or Delegate it. And I should point out there that delay means choose a date when you’re going to do it not just leave it in your inbox forever and ever.
Since that day, the company hosting the course has unfailingly furnished me with its monthly newsletter. But instead of being packed with tech talk and boring bits as you might expect, it actually contains some surprising pearls of wisdom.
So when this month’s issue landed in my inbox yesterday, an item about cutting down on the anxiety in our lives caught my eye. And, courtesy of Priority Management International, I’m sharing it with you today. You might find something in here that strikes a chord.
Enjoy!
Deborah
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF ... AND IT'S ALL SMALL STUFF
If you ask any senior citizen for their advice on an issue they will invariably tell you not to worry so much. Indeed, many will tell you that they wish they had taken more risks during their lifetime because most of what they feared never actually came to pass. Whether it be an argument with your partner, child or work colleague, a mistake you have made, an opportunity missed or a bad cold, chances are, that six months from now you simply aren’t going to care. It will have faded into distant memory – just one more irrelevant detail in your life.
So here are five profound pieces of wisdom that you should take to heart in order to not let the little things take over your life.
1. Take Ownership
You and you alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. However much you might think otherwise, no-one else is to blame for how you feel and no-one else but yourself can stop you from feeling stressed. So take ownership for your moods and stop the blame game today!
2. Don’t Escalate
External events, both trivial and traumatic cannot of themselves make you stressed – it is how you think and react to the event that causes you stress. Stop escalating every event that happens to a level it doesn’t warrant.
3. Alter Your Attitude
You really can, as William James discovered, “alter your life by altering your attitude”. You can choose how to feel just like you can choose how to behave. Start today to be more positive about the life you lead.
4. Control Your Mind
Don’t be a “stinkin’ thinkin'” kind of person. Stinking thinkers cannot control their thoughts and exaggerate the seriousness of every situation. They think themselves into feelings that things are falling apart, are dreadful, terrible and then start to make foolish and unrealistic demands of themselves and the people around them.
5. Be Objective
You will be much less vulnerable to feeling stressed if you take on the “don’t sweat the small stuff – it’s all small stuff” mantra. Remember that stress is always subjective, your emotional reaction to an outside event.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Monday, January 28, 2008
Health and Fitness 08
For many of you 'regular readers' you know that in February 07 Belinda Dell and I decided to get serious with our fitness level. As we approach February 08 I'm happy to report that we, and now along with many others who have joined us, are still on track and going strong.
We will again start to update you regularly and let you know how we are going. You will also need to keep an eye on our Facebook Group and the videos I love so much because I might, just might be considering taking you into the gym with me (to join our Facebook Group go to http://www.facebook.com and then search the family room). I have found that so many of us get 'stuck' on the couch, watching those darn infomercials and forget that we actually have to get up, put on our joggers (running shoes) and get moving. Through sharing my routine with a few friends and just a few very simple things I am doing somehow I think I've managed to de-mystify the dreaded exercise routine and make it do-able for everyone. I just need you to promise not to laugh at my outfit - don't worry I ditched the late 90's thong number with the spandex.....what a disaster that was!!!!!
So today, January 28, 2008 allow me to be that voice of encouragement once more that would say, "come on people let's move, let's make a difference in our own lives and the lives of those depending on us!" You won't regret making a change, I can tell you that I feel so much better today than I did January 2007 (prior to getting serious) and I know January 2009 is going to be amazing as I continue to build Health and Fitness into my life.
Let's get moving!
Susan
We will again start to update you regularly and let you know how we are going. You will also need to keep an eye on our Facebook Group and the videos I love so much because I might, just might be considering taking you into the gym with me (to join our Facebook Group go to http://www.facebook.com and then search the family room). I have found that so many of us get 'stuck' on the couch, watching those darn infomercials and forget that we actually have to get up, put on our joggers (running shoes) and get moving. Through sharing my routine with a few friends and just a few very simple things I am doing somehow I think I've managed to de-mystify the dreaded exercise routine and make it do-able for everyone. I just need you to promise not to laugh at my outfit - don't worry I ditched the late 90's thong number with the spandex.....what a disaster that was!!!!!
So today, January 28, 2008 allow me to be that voice of encouragement once more that would say, "come on people let's move, let's make a difference in our own lives and the lives of those depending on us!" You won't regret making a change, I can tell you that I feel so much better today than I did January 2007 (prior to getting serious) and I know January 2009 is going to be amazing as I continue to build Health and Fitness into my life.
Let's get moving!
Susan
Friday, January 25, 2008
Chicken Surprise!
Here's a new kind of post for everyone. Sam Cosatto sent the below email to me recently and I thought it was going to be a yummy recipe for the blog. To my surprise it was something that made me giggle. A clean little bit of laughter that you can share with your children, your spouse or your grandparents.
Enjoy!
A couple goes for a meal at a Chinese restaurant and orders the "Chicken Surprise." The waiter brings the meal, served in a lidded cast iron pot.
Just as the wife is about to serve herself, the lid of the pot rises slightly and she briefly sees two beady little eyes looking around before the lid slams back down.
"Good grief, did you see that?" she asks her husband. He hasn't, so she asks him to look in the pot. He reaches for it and again the lid rises, and he sees two little eyes looking around before it slams down.
Rather perturbed, he calls the waiter over, explains what is happening, and demands an explanation.
"Please sir," says the waiter, "what you order?" The husband replies, "Chicken Surprise."
You're going to love this..................
"Ah! So sorry," says the waiter, "I bring you Peeking Duck!"
Enjoy!
A couple goes for a meal at a Chinese restaurant and orders the "Chicken Surprise." The waiter brings the meal, served in a lidded cast iron pot.
Just as the wife is about to serve herself, the lid of the pot rises slightly and she briefly sees two beady little eyes looking around before the lid slams back down.
"Good grief, did you see that?" she asks her husband. He hasn't, so she asks him to look in the pot. He reaches for it and again the lid rises, and he sees two little eyes looking around before it slams down.
Rather perturbed, he calls the waiter over, explains what is happening, and demands an explanation.
"Please sir," says the waiter, "what you order?" The husband replies, "Chicken Surprise."
You're going to love this..................
"Ah! So sorry," says the waiter, "I bring you Peeking Duck!"
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Drugs, Drugs and more Drugs! When is enough ~ enough?
Today I’m going to revisit an article that I wrote and posted on our blogspot on November 28, 2007. The article was titled ‘The War on Drugs’ and I encourage you to pull it up and have a read (simply visit our blogspot and check out November archives).
I am again reminded of this vicious War and all out attack on our children, young adults and older, by the recent death of actor Heath Ledger. Drugs are changing our world and we must encourage open conversations in our homes and through our extended relationships about the danger of drugs and the affect they ARE and CAN have in all of our lives.
The harsh and sad reality is that drugs are made available to all of us. Not only are they found on the school ground, the street, in the work environment but they are in our own homes in the form of prescription medication ~ a new way to use, that is rapidly growing (again I urge you to read our article called ‘The War on Drugs’ for more information about prescription drug use).
The average age of regular drug usage is lowing daily. According to a report I heard recently only 50% of parents talk to their children about illegal drugs and only 30% talk to them about prescription drugs. This problem is real and none of us are exempt. Our children are being exposed earlier and we as parents and in some cased grandparents or care-givers aren’t talking about it enough which is causing our children to be ill equipped to handle the pressure and influences they face on a daily basis. We MUST keep the lines of communication open.
We need to stand up taller, speak louder and know that our voice matters both on the macro side of this WAR and the micro (in our homes). Talk to your children, show them examples of what drug use CAN and WILL do to them. Don’t be afraid to show them the reality that may lie behind the first hit of anything. Lives are hanging in the balance.
Heath Ledger a 28-year old young man and father is gone. I believe he will be remembered as a great actor and all that he brought to the world of entertainment, however louder than his acting ability will be the fact that his early death was caused by ‘suspected drug use’.
Let’s not put up with anymore ‘useless’ deaths, let’s not run the risk with our children anymore. When was the last time you talked to your children, whatever ever their age, about drugs? Do it today and keep them safe.
Susan
I am again reminded of this vicious War and all out attack on our children, young adults and older, by the recent death of actor Heath Ledger. Drugs are changing our world and we must encourage open conversations in our homes and through our extended relationships about the danger of drugs and the affect they ARE and CAN have in all of our lives.
The harsh and sad reality is that drugs are made available to all of us. Not only are they found on the school ground, the street, in the work environment but they are in our own homes in the form of prescription medication ~ a new way to use, that is rapidly growing (again I urge you to read our article called ‘The War on Drugs’ for more information about prescription drug use).
The average age of regular drug usage is lowing daily. According to a report I heard recently only 50% of parents talk to their children about illegal drugs and only 30% talk to them about prescription drugs. This problem is real and none of us are exempt. Our children are being exposed earlier and we as parents and in some cased grandparents or care-givers aren’t talking about it enough which is causing our children to be ill equipped to handle the pressure and influences they face on a daily basis. We MUST keep the lines of communication open.
We need to stand up taller, speak louder and know that our voice matters both on the macro side of this WAR and the micro (in our homes). Talk to your children, show them examples of what drug use CAN and WILL do to them. Don’t be afraid to show them the reality that may lie behind the first hit of anything. Lives are hanging in the balance.
Heath Ledger a 28-year old young man and father is gone. I believe he will be remembered as a great actor and all that he brought to the world of entertainment, however louder than his acting ability will be the fact that his early death was caused by ‘suspected drug use’.
Let’s not put up with anymore ‘useless’ deaths, let’s not run the risk with our children anymore. When was the last time you talked to your children, whatever ever their age, about drugs? Do it today and keep them safe.
Susan
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Something for the Girls.......
Hi Friends,
I’m broaching one of those subjects that we “all know about” (like self breast examination) and are mostly slack at doing. What am I talking about today....... The Pelvic Floor Exercise!!!!!! I know everyone is squirming now as they read on.
I first learnt about pelvic floor exercises as an RN. As I studied to be a midwife the importance of the Pelvic Floor became more apparent. My complete revelation however, occurred after having had three vaginal deliveries. Do I have any friends out there….?!!
So friends in the interest of your pelvic floors and in an effort to assist you move towards dry undies, the ability to cough or laugh without fear plus the dreaded unexpected sneeze and of course the best part ~ better sex I shall share some much needed info with you.
What is it all about?
The pelvic floor is like a hammock stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone.. The pelvic floor muscles play an important role in bladder and bowel control and sexual sensation. Pelvic floor muscles can be weakened by, pregnancy and childbirth, chronic constipation, regular heavy lifting, menopause, being overweight and unfit.
What you can do:
It is important not to hold your breath, squeeze your buttocks or thighs or push down when doing these exercises.
The muscles you wish to tighten are the same ones you use when you want to stop passing wind or if you were to stop your flow of urine mid-stream (not recommended).
1. Tightening and drawing in around the anus, the vagina and the urethra all at once, lifting them UP inside. Try and hold this contraction strongly as you count to five then release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of 'letting go'.
2. Repeat ('squeeze and lift') and relax. It is important to rest for about 10 seconds in between each contraction. If you find it easy to hold for a count of five, try to hold for longer - up to ten seconds.
3. Repeat this as many times as you are able up to a maximum of 8-10 squeezes.
4. Now do five to ten short, fast, but
5. Strong contractions.
6. Do this whole exercise routine at least 4-5 times every day.
Remind yourself to do your exercises by associating them with a common task like washing your hands. I have a friend who has a couple of yellow spots stuck around the house, she does her exercises when she sees the spot. Go for it girls, you will thank me in days, weeks, months and especially in years to come.
Annie
I’m broaching one of those subjects that we “all know about” (like self breast examination) and are mostly slack at doing. What am I talking about today....... The Pelvic Floor Exercise!!!!!! I know everyone is squirming now as they read on.
I first learnt about pelvic floor exercises as an RN. As I studied to be a midwife the importance of the Pelvic Floor became more apparent. My complete revelation however, occurred after having had three vaginal deliveries. Do I have any friends out there….?!!
So friends in the interest of your pelvic floors and in an effort to assist you move towards dry undies, the ability to cough or laugh without fear plus the dreaded unexpected sneeze and of course the best part ~ better sex I shall share some much needed info with you.
What is it all about?
The pelvic floor is like a hammock stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone.. The pelvic floor muscles play an important role in bladder and bowel control and sexual sensation. Pelvic floor muscles can be weakened by, pregnancy and childbirth, chronic constipation, regular heavy lifting, menopause, being overweight and unfit.
What you can do:
It is important not to hold your breath, squeeze your buttocks or thighs or push down when doing these exercises.
The muscles you wish to tighten are the same ones you use when you want to stop passing wind or if you were to stop your flow of urine mid-stream (not recommended).
1. Tightening and drawing in around the anus, the vagina and the urethra all at once, lifting them UP inside. Try and hold this contraction strongly as you count to five then release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of 'letting go'.
2. Repeat ('squeeze and lift') and relax. It is important to rest for about 10 seconds in between each contraction. If you find it easy to hold for a count of five, try to hold for longer - up to ten seconds.
3. Repeat this as many times as you are able up to a maximum of 8-10 squeezes.
4. Now do five to ten short, fast, but
5. Strong contractions.
6. Do this whole exercise routine at least 4-5 times every day.
Remind yourself to do your exercises by associating them with a common task like washing your hands. I have a friend who has a couple of yellow spots stuck around the house, she does her exercises when she sees the spot. Go for it girls, you will thank me in days, weeks, months and especially in years to come.
Annie
Thursday, January 17, 2008
A Life Beyond Yourself
Hello to everyone. I find myself writing this with a smile on my face because I am sitting in the Toyota Dealership. I have just dropped my car off for a service and I wondered what I was going to do for the 1.5 hour wait (if there was no one to talk to....I love talking). Much to my surprise not only is there hot coffee and tea, muffins, bottled water and juice on hand but Internet access! Who would have thought that local car dealerships would provide so much ~ a strong bid for our business I guess and today Toyota is tops for me. I'm able to accomplish multiple tasks while sitting waiting for my car.
If you haven't already read Sam's recent post 'What's Good for You' I encourage you to do so. The post is all about 'acts of kindness' and how being kind and doing things for others can benefit our health. This is something I've been thinking about lately not so much from a health perspective but through the lives of our children. I am convinced that one way to keep our children out of harms way (whatever their ages) and away from some of the things that are available to them and seem appealing, is through being involved in something beyond themselves. Being part of something that not only occupies time but thought life as well, is a valuable part of all of our lives. You know what is said about idleness.
I think (and remember this is MY thinking) that as parents, we can get busy and sadly our children are the one's who pay the price. During these 'busy' times children will find things to connect to/with and before long we're asking how they got involved in that, or why they have changed. Sadly I've had conversations with many parents about how they can't get their teenager off the computer or out of their bedroom. Parents tell me that conversations have turned to grunting when passing in the hallway rather than the meaningful conversations, they once shared, covering the things that matter in their world.
It is our responsibility to help our children find things that will ignite something within them. Helping them live a life beyond themselves is a valuable life lesson that will help propel them into the future. When your thoughts are consumed by bigger and greater things and ways that you can make a difference or be involved, the world looks so different and so much more inviting. There is a need within each one of us to belong to something and to find our own significance.
Our children are learning about things earlier than we did, and in some cases they are experiencing things earlier as well. Whether that's right or wrong it's happening and we need to help them navigate this delicate season of their lives.
Today my 6.5 year old headed off to school with $10.00 of his own pocket money to give to a mission's project the school is involved in. He has displayed and shared his thoughts towards helping the poor many times and today he put action to his words. It is now Philip and my responsiblity to help him carve out a way that he can make a difference in this area. He obviously has a soft heart towards people and we need to put tools in his hand that will help him develop this amazing area of his life. This is an example of a young boy living a life beyond himself and we need to let him know that he can make a difference, we need to encourage him to dream, we need to let him try.
I want to encourage you to listen to your children, really listen and find out what makes them tick. Everyone has a dream and that dream is unique to each individual ~ don't expect all your children to share the same dream. Help your children see their dream become a reality and again remember it doesn't matter what age your children are. This year I will be celebrating my 38th birthday and my parents continue to help me carve out my dream. They listen to me, they discuss things with me, they share their ideas with me and I'm so thankful for that. So, if you have a 6.5 year old like me or your baby is 14, 18, 19 ,20 or 38 help them navigate the waters of life.
Finally I would like to ask if you would share your thoughts on how you can or how you have helped your children live lives beyond themselves. Where you have seen success? What are some great ideas you can share with thefamilyroom community?
Susan
If you haven't already read Sam's recent post 'What's Good for You' I encourage you to do so. The post is all about 'acts of kindness' and how being kind and doing things for others can benefit our health. This is something I've been thinking about lately not so much from a health perspective but through the lives of our children. I am convinced that one way to keep our children out of harms way (whatever their ages) and away from some of the things that are available to them and seem appealing, is through being involved in something beyond themselves. Being part of something that not only occupies time but thought life as well, is a valuable part of all of our lives. You know what is said about idleness.
I think (and remember this is MY thinking) that as parents, we can get busy and sadly our children are the one's who pay the price. During these 'busy' times children will find things to connect to/with and before long we're asking how they got involved in that, or why they have changed. Sadly I've had conversations with many parents about how they can't get their teenager off the computer or out of their bedroom. Parents tell me that conversations have turned to grunting when passing in the hallway rather than the meaningful conversations, they once shared, covering the things that matter in their world.
It is our responsibility to help our children find things that will ignite something within them. Helping them live a life beyond themselves is a valuable life lesson that will help propel them into the future. When your thoughts are consumed by bigger and greater things and ways that you can make a difference or be involved, the world looks so different and so much more inviting. There is a need within each one of us to belong to something and to find our own significance.
Our children are learning about things earlier than we did, and in some cases they are experiencing things earlier as well. Whether that's right or wrong it's happening and we need to help them navigate this delicate season of their lives.
Today my 6.5 year old headed off to school with $10.00 of his own pocket money to give to a mission's project the school is involved in. He has displayed and shared his thoughts towards helping the poor many times and today he put action to his words. It is now Philip and my responsiblity to help him carve out a way that he can make a difference in this area. He obviously has a soft heart towards people and we need to put tools in his hand that will help him develop this amazing area of his life. This is an example of a young boy living a life beyond himself and we need to let him know that he can make a difference, we need to encourage him to dream, we need to let him try.
I want to encourage you to listen to your children, really listen and find out what makes them tick. Everyone has a dream and that dream is unique to each individual ~ don't expect all your children to share the same dream. Help your children see their dream become a reality and again remember it doesn't matter what age your children are. This year I will be celebrating my 38th birthday and my parents continue to help me carve out my dream. They listen to me, they discuss things with me, they share their ideas with me and I'm so thankful for that. So, if you have a 6.5 year old like me or your baby is 14, 18, 19 ,20 or 38 help them navigate the waters of life.
Finally I would like to ask if you would share your thoughts on how you can or how you have helped your children live lives beyond themselves. Where you have seen success? What are some great ideas you can share with thefamilyroom community?
Susan
Monday, January 14, 2008
What's Good For You
Well here we are over two weeks into 2008. Christmas and New Year are quickly fading into all of our memories and we starting to make tracks in 08.
As we journey through this year I thought it would be a good idea to share about something that studies have proven to be good for all of us! We all want health and wellness so here is a little something that WILL help you and guess what? It's super simple and it doesn't have to cost a cent!!!!
According to many studies "doing good" is good for you. It has been shown that people who volunteer, live longer and are healthier. I think it's similar to that old saying, "laughter is one of the best medicines." Like laughter a helping hand can bring health and wellbeing, to anyone who chooses to extend themselves.
According to one author who studied thousands of "do gooders" other benefits include increased optimism and energy, decreased feelings of loneliness and depression, better weight control, a greater sense of relaxation and improved sleep. Who doesn't want all of that in life?
The beginning of the year seems like a perfect time to volunteer or perform random acts of kindness on those we love and those we don't even know. Be creative and involve your family and friends. A perfect way to keep children (whatever the age) safe and out of trouble or anything else is to set their eyes on something beyond themselves (watch for an upcoming article from Susan on this ~ it's a good one!).
A few ideas on how to help:
Cook a meal for a neighbor (maybe they have a busy week).
Rake someone’s yard and rid them of unwanted leaves
Shovel Snow from a driveway
Clean up the back yard/pool area
Clean out and organize someone’s garage
Pay for a meal at a café
Pay the toll for the person behind you
Baby-sit for someone and give a much needed break
Do someone's laundry (remind them we've all seen dirty undies....)
Clean a car
Invite someone over for dinner ~ you never know where loneliness lives.
I am putting the challenge out to my familyroom buddies so get ready for them to share what they’ve done. Let's spread a little kindness. The opportunities are ENDLESS!
FYI....we will be putting this out to our Facebook Group so jump on and share your stories of kindness with us and let’s encourage each other. Also, share your stories here.
Take care and together let's make a huge difference in this world.
Sam
As we journey through this year I thought it would be a good idea to share about something that studies have proven to be good for all of us! We all want health and wellness so here is a little something that WILL help you and guess what? It's super simple and it doesn't have to cost a cent!!!!
According to many studies "doing good" is good for you. It has been shown that people who volunteer, live longer and are healthier. I think it's similar to that old saying, "laughter is one of the best medicines." Like laughter a helping hand can bring health and wellbeing, to anyone who chooses to extend themselves.
According to one author who studied thousands of "do gooders" other benefits include increased optimism and energy, decreased feelings of loneliness and depression, better weight control, a greater sense of relaxation and improved sleep. Who doesn't want all of that in life?
The beginning of the year seems like a perfect time to volunteer or perform random acts of kindness on those we love and those we don't even know. Be creative and involve your family and friends. A perfect way to keep children (whatever the age) safe and out of trouble or anything else is to set their eyes on something beyond themselves (watch for an upcoming article from Susan on this ~ it's a good one!).
A few ideas on how to help:
Cook a meal for a neighbor (maybe they have a busy week).
Rake someone’s yard and rid them of unwanted leaves
Shovel Snow from a driveway
Clean up the back yard/pool area
Clean out and organize someone’s garage
Pay for a meal at a café
Pay the toll for the person behind you
Baby-sit for someone and give a much needed break
Do someone's laundry (remind them we've all seen dirty undies....)
Clean a car
Invite someone over for dinner ~ you never know where loneliness lives.
I am putting the challenge out to my familyroom buddies so get ready for them to share what they’ve done. Let's spread a little kindness. The opportunities are ENDLESS!
FYI....we will be putting this out to our Facebook Group so jump on and share your stories of kindness with us and let’s encourage each other. Also, share your stories here.
Take care and together let's make a huge difference in this world.
Sam
Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Summer Apples
Have you ever found yourself traveling through life and in a moment you are thrown back in time due to a smell, song on the radio, or just a feeling in the air?
Well friends let me share my today with you.
After a busy holiday season, I have finally had a day to myself to reflect and project. We are over one week into the new year, and today was my day to consider the days, weeks and months ahead of me. There are changes in the wind for us (as a family), risks to be taken, advances to be made, and with all of this comes a certain level of uncertainty. I know all of you reading know exactly what I’m talking about. I spent much of my morning on and off the phone with my mother, passing things by her, talking my way through the waters that I’m navigating. I am so blessed to have a mother who simply listens (endlessly....poor woman), she gives me suggestions, and shares bits and pieces from her journey, allowing me to extract what I want and need from her story. Words from wiser, well traveled people are almost like an anti virus serum that can protect us from contracting unnecessary situations as we travel through life.
Moving along......my youngest daughter and I needed to do some much needed unpacking of our ‘holiday car’ ~ you know the drill, candy canes stuck to the carpet, dirt, grim and mud everywhere, the odd dried up MacDonald’s fry in between the seats, spilled Starbucks in the cup holders....fun, fun, fun. As we headed to the garage I walked straight into and old familiar smell, that as I said threw me straight back to my childhood years. It was the smell of Summer Apples, that came every year when the fruit truck arrived in our community. The smell of those apples saturated us, and it’s a smell I associate with my younger years.
I remember the excitement, knowing that the fruit truck was soon to arrive at our neighbors house (the same house every year). The day it would arrive, we would pile into the car, the windows down (no air conditioning then), the radio was on, and away we went in search of the best fruit in town. There were peaches, pears, cherries, apricots and the plums.....yummo. Strangely enough the apple was the smell that permeated the air.
So, today some 30 years later, I have found myself considering the year/s ahead. Uncertainty filled my mind, moments of fear tried to creep in, concern definitely found a home, and as I walked toward the job at hand, within a millisecond I was thrown back to a place in time where everything stood still. I could see my mother negotiating her purchases, I could hear the voices of my childhood friends, I could see the strange old fruit man standing on the truck yelling out prices, and I could taste the sweetness of the peaches that were on sample for all to try. In that millisecond every thought I had exercised today was brought back into perspective for me. I felt safe and secure in the knowledge that no matter what lies ahead, it will be okay, the days will turn into weeks, the weeks into years and we will remain standing.
I pray that in my home and through my children’s childhood there are familiar smells, sounds and feelings that in 30 more years will bring the same feeling I have felt today. It is our today’s that make the difference in tomorrow and beyond. Be wise, be happy and love lots!
Susan xo
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
A Belated Happy New Year!
Hello again and Happy New Year to everyone from all of us at thefamilyroom!!!!! We have all missed communicating with you but trust you had a lovely Christmas and New Year. I know a few of you were bummed that we ‘stopped production’ during the holidays but hey everyone needs a break to simply hang with family and friends (maybe we’ll do it differently next year). We’re glad you missed us!!
I don’t know about you but I’m finding it hard to believe that the holidays are over and we are now into 2008 - I’m still at New Year’s Eve singing that Prince song, “Tonight I’m going to party like it’s 1999!!!!”
Honestly where are the years going? I don’t remember time flying like this when I was younger. Isn’t it funny that as a child, time almost felt like it stood still (at times) and if it moved you were able to catch it because you had so much energy. Now, as an adult, I find that time is flying at the speed of light and I no longer have that incredible energy to run after it and possibly even beat it. Thank goodness for thefamilyroom tips, ideas, lists and plans, if I didn’t have them I think I may simply fall off the edge of the world.
We had the best time in 2007 refining thefamilyroom and journeying with all of you.
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New in 08:
2008 will see a number of new familyroom initiatives which are all really exciting – we will keep you posted and up to date on everything so don’t worry....you’ll all be the first to know!!
The first thing - Since thefamilyroom started I have been asked by a number of ‘guys’ how we will include the boys/men in thefamilyroom community, they love what we are doing and have done thus far however they seem to want a little more. That being said, this isn’t just for the boys/men so girls get ready.
Within the next 60 days (hopefully earlier, we’ll keep you posted) we will be launching a very new blog that will challenge the mind, encourage the soul, cause you to think in different ways and will take you to new places. It’s going to be great so let the boys/men know and watch this space friends!
I think I will stop for now. We really, really love what we are doing, we love family and community and we love that you are part of this community so stay with us, buckle up your seatbelt, put the little one’s in the car seat and together let’s continue driving on this road toward more.
As always, remember that the world looks better through smiling eyes and know that you aren’t alone, we’re doing this together.
Keep it simple but keep it real,
Susan J. Sohn
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Tune in, tone up
A few weeks ago, my interest in the gym didn’t so much hit a plateau – it nose-dived spectacularly into a tail-spin of boredom and monotony.
The treadmill had become a chore, the bike was boring beyond belief and even my personal favourite, the cross-trainer, failed to rekindle my waning desire to work out. Hands up if you’ve been there.
I tried plugging in the headphones and watching TV but that didn’t work for me. I became so absorbed in the programs that my brisk walk turned into an afternoon stroll. The music channel seemed like a good idea but, call me old-fashioned, scantily-clad girls lamenting their lost loves and singing of plans to exact terrible revenge on their exes just left me cold.
Finally, I hit upon the idea of compiling a workout playlist for the iPod. Perhaps I’m slow on the uptake, it just hadn’t occurred to me to do this before.
But you know what, it worked so well. I chose a few fast tunes for the 40 minutes of cardio then some favourite crooners to slow the pace for a cool down. It’s hard to believe something so simple could make such a big difference. My energy and motivation were renewed.
So today, lucky ladies and gentlemen, I am sharing with you my Number 1 motivational, workout playlist. Give it a whirl or make one of your own, then when the excesses of the festive season are over you can, quite literally, hit the ground running with a new fitness regime!
Click on the song titles to go to a website where you can hear a snippet from them. Then click the little speaker symbol and they will launch in Windows Media Player.
Cardio:
If you could read my mind – Amber
Love Generation – Bob Sinclair
Destination Calabria – Alex Gaudino
Kung Fu Fighting – Carl Douglas
Mambo No 5 – Lou Bega
Bingo Bango – Basement Jaxx
We’re Going to Ibiza – Venga Boys
You’re The First, the Last, My Everything – Barry White
20 Good Reasons – Thirsty Merc
Hot Hot Hot – Bina Mistry
Cooldown:
Put Your Records On – Corinne Bailey Rae
Grace – U2
Fix You – Coldplay
That's all for today. Enjoy your workout and some of my favorites. Have a very Merry Christmas and an amazing New Year.
Deborah
The treadmill had become a chore, the bike was boring beyond belief and even my personal favourite, the cross-trainer, failed to rekindle my waning desire to work out. Hands up if you’ve been there.
I tried plugging in the headphones and watching TV but that didn’t work for me. I became so absorbed in the programs that my brisk walk turned into an afternoon stroll. The music channel seemed like a good idea but, call me old-fashioned, scantily-clad girls lamenting their lost loves and singing of plans to exact terrible revenge on their exes just left me cold.
Finally, I hit upon the idea of compiling a workout playlist for the iPod. Perhaps I’m slow on the uptake, it just hadn’t occurred to me to do this before.
But you know what, it worked so well. I chose a few fast tunes for the 40 minutes of cardio then some favourite crooners to slow the pace for a cool down. It’s hard to believe something so simple could make such a big difference. My energy and motivation were renewed.
So today, lucky ladies and gentlemen, I am sharing with you my Number 1 motivational, workout playlist. Give it a whirl or make one of your own, then when the excesses of the festive season are over you can, quite literally, hit the ground running with a new fitness regime!
Click on the song titles to go to a website where you can hear a snippet from them. Then click the little speaker symbol and they will launch in Windows Media Player.
Cardio:
If you could read my mind – Amber
Love Generation – Bob Sinclair
Destination Calabria – Alex Gaudino
Kung Fu Fighting – Carl Douglas
Mambo No 5 – Lou Bega
Bingo Bango – Basement Jaxx
We’re Going to Ibiza – Venga Boys
You’re The First, the Last, My Everything – Barry White
20 Good Reasons – Thirsty Merc
Hot Hot Hot – Bina Mistry
Cooldown:
Put Your Records On – Corinne Bailey Rae
Grace – U2
Fix You – Coldplay
That's all for today. Enjoy your workout and some of my favorites. Have a very Merry Christmas and an amazing New Year.
Deborah
Sunday, December 16, 2007
The 80-20 Rule
I guess most of us have heard of the "80 - 20 Rule" (formerly Pareto's Principle). Its origins go back to around 1897 when Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto observed that 80 percent of the land was owned by 20 percent of the people. Since then, this theory has been applied to almost every sphere of modern life.
I have mainly heard this used along the lines of 20 percent of the people doing 80 percent of the work. But I have recently read about applying it to personal time management. When applied this way - it means that 20 percent of your efforts produce 80 percent of the results. In other words there is the critical few and the trivial many.
I am now trying to identify the vital things in my day and focus on getting those done and it's amazing how the rest takes care of itself.
Now all you organised, choleric types are saying "der", but for someone a little more "relaxed" like me, this can be a revelation.
Hope someone finds this helpful!
Sam
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Time Matters
It seems funny to be writing about time management at this busy time of the year when we are experiencing out of control concerts, late nights mixed with the sugar rushes, excitement and shopping, shopping, shopping and one more trip to the shops for that last ingredient for the rum balls…and the story continues…
Doing things well is about stopping in the midst of the craziness and taking TIME to remember what it’s all about (especially during this beautiful season). For me that means:
A celebration of faith and TIME with family and friends.
Taking the TIME to stop and smile at someone instead of getting shoppers/road/airport/petrol station rage.
Taking the TIME to let the kids wrap the presents even though they look a bit dog eared and dodgy!
Taking the TIME to turn Mariah Carey up loud and sing like a crazy person and enjoy it.
Allowing the kitchen to be a mess for a while so everyone can be involved with the Christmas baking and letting the kids play a part in choosing a part of the meal.
Taking the TIME to create your own traditions.
Taking the TIME to count your blessings.
Taking the TIME to consider those less fortunate and what your contribution could be to easing their suffering.
We went shopping today (again) so the kids could choose presents for my hubby and myself while I waited outside. They were so excited and I’m so glad I took the TIME to let them choose heaven knows what (they were given a budget) then wrap it at home and stick it under the tree.
This is the TIME of year to manage our TIME moment by moment and make every effort to enjoy each special one…..New Year’s Eve will come around soon enough and we’ll be resolving to make 2008 a TIME of efficiency with our lists and structure…until then, take a deep breath, create some great memories and enjoy the ride.
Lv Jane
Doing things well is about stopping in the midst of the craziness and taking TIME to remember what it’s all about (especially during this beautiful season). For me that means:
A celebration of faith and TIME with family and friends.
Taking the TIME to stop and smile at someone instead of getting shoppers/road/airport/petrol station rage.
Taking the TIME to let the kids wrap the presents even though they look a bit dog eared and dodgy!
Taking the TIME to turn Mariah Carey up loud and sing like a crazy person and enjoy it.
Allowing the kitchen to be a mess for a while so everyone can be involved with the Christmas baking and letting the kids play a part in choosing a part of the meal.
Taking the TIME to create your own traditions.
Taking the TIME to count your blessings.
Taking the TIME to consider those less fortunate and what your contribution could be to easing their suffering.
We went shopping today (again) so the kids could choose presents for my hubby and myself while I waited outside. They were so excited and I’m so glad I took the TIME to let them choose heaven knows what (they were given a budget) then wrap it at home and stick it under the tree.
This is the TIME of year to manage our TIME moment by moment and make every effort to enjoy each special one…..New Year’s Eve will come around soon enough and we’ll be resolving to make 2008 a TIME of efficiency with our lists and structure…until then, take a deep breath, create some great memories and enjoy the ride.
Lv Jane
Sunday, December 09, 2007
A Date to Remember
So last night was just one of those nights that I will remember for a long time. It was nothing flash, rather extremely simple and in it’s simplicity it was simply amazing (how many times can I use the word or a derivative of simple?). Anyway it started like this….
My hubby was out running errands and I was home making a gingerbread house with the children (that was super fun!) and I called him and said, “hey how bout a babysitter tonight and let’s go Christmas shopping?” To which he replied, “yeah sure, why not.” I quickly called the babysitter, arranged for Philip to pick him up and YAHOO we were going out…totally unplanned and unexpected.
We decided to leave the car and walk (we are currently living in a rather ‘urban’ area). Our night was open and we were simply going wherever we were drawn. First we found ourselves in a Christmas shop looking at all the beautiful Christmas decorations and then we found ourselves at a Japanese/Korean restaurant where we enjoyed very simple, inexpensive food. Our conversation was great and we noticed no one else in the restaurant (for anyone who knows me that’s strange because I ALWAYS know what’s going on all around me). After dinner we walked the streets window shopping, talking and laughing. At one point I was laughing so hard Philip noticed that I had tears rolling down my cheeks.
Slowly we made our way home ~ so much for the Christmas shopping! We had a great night together and I realised once again why I love this man and how important it is to take time just to BE together and rediscover each other. We commented (last night) about how we both hope that at 70 we are still enjoying one another as much as we did last night. As we continue to deposit into and work on our relationship I’m confident we will remain enjoying one another. I believe the years will just make it all that much richer because we will have even more memories both of the hard times, that we’ve made it through, and the great times; that we’ve shared together.
I encourage you all to take time and enjoy a simple day/night together. As hard as it can be, try and forget the ‘issues’ of the day/world and just BE together. Talk about the time you met, talk about the way you made each other feel and stir up some of the goodness that sits between both of you but sadly can get lost in the mix of life. Your partnership is worth working on……..
So, I will sign off now with a smile on my face remembering every moment of last night. Truly a DATE TO REMEMBER!
Susan
My hubby was out running errands and I was home making a gingerbread house with the children (that was super fun!) and I called him and said, “hey how bout a babysitter tonight and let’s go Christmas shopping?” To which he replied, “yeah sure, why not.” I quickly called the babysitter, arranged for Philip to pick him up and YAHOO we were going out…totally unplanned and unexpected.
We decided to leave the car and walk (we are currently living in a rather ‘urban’ area). Our night was open and we were simply going wherever we were drawn. First we found ourselves in a Christmas shop looking at all the beautiful Christmas decorations and then we found ourselves at a Japanese/Korean restaurant where we enjoyed very simple, inexpensive food. Our conversation was great and we noticed no one else in the restaurant (for anyone who knows me that’s strange because I ALWAYS know what’s going on all around me). After dinner we walked the streets window shopping, talking and laughing. At one point I was laughing so hard Philip noticed that I had tears rolling down my cheeks.
Slowly we made our way home ~ so much for the Christmas shopping! We had a great night together and I realised once again why I love this man and how important it is to take time just to BE together and rediscover each other. We commented (last night) about how we both hope that at 70 we are still enjoying one another as much as we did last night. As we continue to deposit into and work on our relationship I’m confident we will remain enjoying one another. I believe the years will just make it all that much richer because we will have even more memories both of the hard times, that we’ve made it through, and the great times; that we’ve shared together.
I encourage you all to take time and enjoy a simple day/night together. As hard as it can be, try and forget the ‘issues’ of the day/world and just BE together. Talk about the time you met, talk about the way you made each other feel and stir up some of the goodness that sits between both of you but sadly can get lost in the mix of life. Your partnership is worth working on……..
So, I will sign off now with a smile on my face remembering every moment of last night. Truly a DATE TO REMEMBER!
Susan
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Begin With The End In Mind.....
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters
Compared to what lies within us
Oliver Wendell Holmes.
I was interviewing someone for an article recently and I finished by asking them this question: “How would you like to be remembered?” They paused for a moment, and then answered. It got me thinking: How would I like to be remembered? This is a question I had never really asked myself. Or, morbidly still, what would I like people to say about me at my funeral. If my eulogy involved my nicely decorated house, great writing or how well I dressed I was – I’ve failed. But if those closest to me honour with words like kindness, compassion, generousity, love for God, commitment to her family etc – then I’ll be smiling in my casket. In Stephen Covey’s best selling book: ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective people,’ he takes this thought even further.
See yourself going to a funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking your car and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice flowers, soft music playing (which sounds like that favourite song of yours). You see the faces of your family and friends. You sense the loss.
As you walk down to the front of the chapel and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral. All of these people have come to honour you and to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take your seat and wait for the service to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers: a family member, a friend, a work colleague and someone from your church. Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of mother, wife would you like those words to reflect. What kind or friend were you or working associate. What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements do you want to be remembered for? What difference would you like to have made?
Doing this exercise, as sad as it seems, can often re-set your internal navigation system. Maybe you have to make a u turn, or simply a short right turn, before the automated voice inside you says: “your destination is ahead.” It’s never too late to change. Start now. Begin tomorrow with the end in mind.
Nicki Partridge
Compared to what lies within us
Oliver Wendell Holmes.
I was interviewing someone for an article recently and I finished by asking them this question: “How would you like to be remembered?” They paused for a moment, and then answered. It got me thinking: How would I like to be remembered? This is a question I had never really asked myself. Or, morbidly still, what would I like people to say about me at my funeral. If my eulogy involved my nicely decorated house, great writing or how well I dressed I was – I’ve failed. But if those closest to me honour with words like kindness, compassion, generousity, love for God, commitment to her family etc – then I’ll be smiling in my casket. In Stephen Covey’s best selling book: ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective people,’ he takes this thought even further.
See yourself going to a funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking your car and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice flowers, soft music playing (which sounds like that favourite song of yours). You see the faces of your family and friends. You sense the loss.
As you walk down to the front of the chapel and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral. All of these people have come to honour you and to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take your seat and wait for the service to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers: a family member, a friend, a work colleague and someone from your church. Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of mother, wife would you like those words to reflect. What kind or friend were you or working associate. What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements do you want to be remembered for? What difference would you like to have made?
Doing this exercise, as sad as it seems, can often re-set your internal navigation system. Maybe you have to make a u turn, or simply a short right turn, before the automated voice inside you says: “your destination is ahead.” It’s never too late to change. Start now. Begin tomorrow with the end in mind.
Nicki Partridge
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
Panettone Bread and Butter Pudding!
Those of you who know me know that I don't eat a lot of Italian food unless it's at Sam's house or a good restaurant (I do however love a good veal parmigiana). Strangely it’s just not a food that I ever really got into cooking with the exception of the odd Spag Bog or Lasagna that my children request once in awhile. However after spending time at the gym and watching the food network whilst I work out (I know it’s a little strange) I have found that I have come to love watching Everyday Italian with Giada De Laurentiis. She seriously makes the most yummy looking food and is always so calm.
In preparation for our amazing Christmas Holiday, that we are spending with our friends the Cosatto’s (Sam’s family) and the Dell’s (Belinda’s family) I decided to ‘have a go’ with an Italian desert. So, in honor of Sam’s hubby, the great Italian man Tony, my eldest daughter and I stayed up later than normal, chatted non-stop and baked this morish, very (very) simple dish.
The main ingredient Panettone.....I’ve always seen this in almost every shop around Christmas time and have never known what it was. I always thought it was some cheap version of fruit cake so never bothered with it. That was until I asked Sam and she informed me that it was, in fact something really nice and loved by Italian people both young and old. So, I decided to buy it and try it. Below is the recipe we used and I promise you it is beyond simple, it could be the perfect dinner party desert or part of any families holiday food!
Panettone Bread and Butter Pudding (Giada De Laurentiis – Everyday Italian)
Ingredients:
575 mls of milk (don’t use 2% or full cream, use either 1% or skim)
575 mls double cream (thick, heavy cream)
1 vanilla pod (or just a tsp of vanilla if you don’t use pods)
4 medium eggs
170 grams caster sugar (the finest you can find but don’t stress use whatever you have ~ I did!)
Panettone, cut into thick slices and buttered (I didn’t butter, just seemed to rich)
1 orange zest
A little icing sugar
Method:
Preheat oven to 325 (160 degrees or #3 for Gas)
To start the custard base, bring the milk and cream just to a boil in a saucepan.
Cut the vanilla pod in half and scrape out the seeds (or just add your tsp of vanilla) and add the zest to the milk.
In a separate large bowl whisk the eggs and sugar until they are pale or well mixed.
Dip each slice of bread into the custard and then place in a well buttered baking tray (9x13 is best).
Once all the bread is in, use your hands an gently press everything down.
Pour remainder of custard slowly over the bread.
Bake for 45 minutes – when cooked it will be slightly wobbly inside with a slight crust around the edges.
Dust with a little icing sugar and serve with extra cream, even a little jam or just by itself with a nice cup of coffee!
Enjoy!
Monday, December 03, 2007
Celebrating Relationships
Hi all,
I’ve been a little quiet over the last month because we have been in the process of selling our home. I know some of you can relate. It’s amazing how tidy you have to the house because you never know when the agent is going to call ready to bring someone around...... With three (busy) children many of you will know what I’m talking about!
I’ve been thinking about what Susan said on the Facebook video today (if you aren’t on Facebook yet you should join up, it’s so much fun connecting with people plus you can join thefamilyroom Group) and I thought I would share a little something from the pages of our family in regards to people who make a difference.
The other day my 12 year old son was talking on the phone to his Grandparents in New Zealand. They have just returned from a trip overseas and Jacob (my son) was asking them all about it. He wasn’t just being ‘polite’ to the grandparents and doing as mum said by asking questions, he was really and truly interested. The conversation warmed my heart because I could see and hear that although an ocean separates us from them, the distance isn’t changing the relationship. An extremely important relationship I might add. I know that through the conversation both parties felt valued, Jacob because his Grandparents were talking to him in an age appropriate way and his Grandparents because he was interested in their lives ~ sadly sometimes Grandparents can be pushed to the sidelines of life and only thought about when gifts are due or help is needed.
Anyway I share this because I think it’s important that we remind each other, and teach our children, that life isn’t all about us. Rather we are part of a big puzzle and we need to value one another and share in life. So today I celebrate both my son and my husband’s parents. Little do either of them know how impacting their conversation was on my life.......I realised today my husband and I must be doing something right and that’s encouraging.
Belinda
I’ve been a little quiet over the last month because we have been in the process of selling our home. I know some of you can relate. It’s amazing how tidy you have to the house because you never know when the agent is going to call ready to bring someone around...... With three (busy) children many of you will know what I’m talking about!
I’ve been thinking about what Susan said on the Facebook video today (if you aren’t on Facebook yet you should join up, it’s so much fun connecting with people plus you can join thefamilyroom Group) and I thought I would share a little something from the pages of our family in regards to people who make a difference.
The other day my 12 year old son was talking on the phone to his Grandparents in New Zealand. They have just returned from a trip overseas and Jacob (my son) was asking them all about it. He wasn’t just being ‘polite’ to the grandparents and doing as mum said by asking questions, he was really and truly interested. The conversation warmed my heart because I could see and hear that although an ocean separates us from them, the distance isn’t changing the relationship. An extremely important relationship I might add. I know that through the conversation both parties felt valued, Jacob because his Grandparents were talking to him in an age appropriate way and his Grandparents because he was interested in their lives ~ sadly sometimes Grandparents can be pushed to the sidelines of life and only thought about when gifts are due or help is needed.
Anyway I share this because I think it’s important that we remind each other, and teach our children, that life isn’t all about us. Rather we are part of a big puzzle and we need to value one another and share in life. So today I celebrate both my son and my husband’s parents. Little do either of them know how impacting their conversation was on my life.......I realised today my husband and I must be doing something right and that’s encouraging.
Belinda
Sunday, December 02, 2007
Christmas Truffles
Well, here's another YUMMIE Christmas recipe that has become a 'must have' in our home. These come directly from one of thefamilyroom kitchen's.......Sam's kitchen and we all know anything that comes from Sam's kitchen is simple delightful.
Actually this another Christmas request from my children. Sam and her family will be joining ours and the Dell's for a white Christmas this year and last week I emailed Sam asking her if she would prepare these when we get together ~~ the request came straight from my children and you gotta trust the kids because they truly know what's good and what's not when it comes to Christmas treats!
So, without anything more here's the recipe for everyone to enjoy and share......BTW these, along with Jo's Christmas cookies make and excellent gift for anyone. Pop them in a little box with tissue or a Christmas tin and the perfect, cost effective gift is ready to GIVE.
CHRISTMAS TRUFFLES
(makes around 28)
SHOPPING LIST/Ingredients
200g coconut biscuits
100g blanched almonds, toasted
375g NESTLE White Melts, melted
1/4 cup cream
100g NESTLE Dark Melts, melted
Red and Green decoration (i.e. ready made icing, glace cherries)
METHOD
1) Crush biscuits and nuts in food processor (of just crush them under a rolling pin if a food processor isn't an option), combine with 1/2 the NESTLE White Melts and cream. Mix well.
2) Roll teaspoonfuls of mixture into small balls, refrigerate until firm.
3) Coat truffles in melted NESTLE Dark Melts. Refrigerate until firm.
4) Drizzle remaining NESTLE White Melts over each truffle.
5) Decorate with red and green to resemble holly.
Enjoy ;)
Friday, November 30, 2007
A Blue Christmas
There is a Christmas tree which stands 20 feet tall in the lobby of our office, its branches heavy with baubles and bows, presents stacked at its base ready to bring festive joy to those less fortunate.
But this week, the hundreds of fairy lights twinkling a welcome have failed to captivate the staff and visitors passing by. Instead, their gaze has fallen on a small side table displaying a soft-focus photograph of a middle-aged man and an open book half-filled with messages and signatures.
The man is a well-known journalist who died this week at the age of 46 after being diagnosed with brain tumours just two months ago. His wife and children, aged 11, 14 and 16, will find comfort in the words of condolence the book contains when it is presented to them after his funeral on Friday.
As everyone points out, Christmas will be tough for them this year as they begin to come to terms with the reality of grief and loss. The first Christmas without a daddy, the first New Year as a widow. They are not alone. Their story is repeated in households and communities all around us where people face the festive season lonely and hurting. The depth of their sadness somehow heightened by the focus on joy and celebration around them.
Christmas and New Year are a time of reflection; taking stock before embracing the future and planning new beginnings. For those who are hurting, either through death, divorce or the breakdown of a relationship, it’s a double-whammy. The season is made bittersweet because they cannot share it with the one person they want to be with.
So can I urge you to spare a thought for anyone in your world whose heart is heavy this Christmas? Shun your fear and embarrassment to include them in your plans – whatever that may look like.
Or just let them know that you’re there holding them up and cheering them on.
Deborah
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Christmas Recipes
With the Christmas Season well on it's way it's time to start baking. Today we are giving you 2 great recipes that are loved by everyone (young and old), are great gifts to give plus they freeze well so can be made well in advance!!!!
The first recipe is FUDGE from Belinda and it looks yummo!! The second is a CHRISTMAS COOKIE DOUGH recipe (those yummy sugar cookies) from Jo who is a great of thefamilyroom. I have to tell you, these sugar cookies are amazing. They are so good my children actually requested that I email Jo and ask her to send us the recipe. She has made them with my kids and they LOVE them.
Jo is an amazing cook/baker and I'll let you in on a little secret......She's given us a few other recipes to share and they are absolutely divine and I might ask her if she will spoil us and give us a recipe every 2nd month as a treat! Here's hoping :)
So, Christmas baking here we go:
Christmas Fruit and Nut Fudge by Belinda
Ingredients:
125g butter
395g can of NESTLE Sweetened Condensed milk
1 cup brown sugar
1 1/2 cups Nestle Melts dark
1 cup cubed sponge finger biscuits
1/4 cup roughly chopped roasted almonds
1/4 cup roughly chopped roasted cashews
1/2 cup halved red glazed cherries.
Method:
1. Place butter, NESTLE sweetened condensed milk and brown sugar in a pan.
Stir over a low heat until butter has melted. Bring to the boil,
simmer stirring for 3 minutes.
2. Add NESTLE melts dark, stir until combined and chocolate has melted. Stir
in sponge finger biscuits, nuts and cherries, mix well.
3. Spoon mixture evenly into foil lined 12cm x 23cm loaf pan, cool in
refrigerator until firm.
4. Turn out, cut into squares or slice to serve.
Christmas Cookie Dough by Jo
2 cups butter (softened)
2 cups icing mixture
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
2 eggs
5 cups plain flour
1 teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon baking powder
Method:
(Preheat Oven to 180'C (160'C fan forced))
1. Cream butter with icing sugar.
2. Beat in vanilla and eggs.
3. Mix together flour, salt and baking powder; add gradually to butter mix.
4. Chill for a couple of hours until mixture is firm enough to roll out.
5. Cook cookies on greased cookie sheets. Bake in a 180'C (160'C fan forced) oven for 8-12 mins. Remove as soon as they start to turn slightly brown on the edges. Leave on tray for 2-5 minutes, then onto cool surface.
(Do not leave on tray for too long, they will continue to cook.)
You can decorate them with icing (the kind with egg white in it to make it go hard) or they also taste great drizzled with a little chocolate. Get the kids involved and maybe buy some of those cute decorating bits from the supermarket ~ make them your own!
The first recipe is FUDGE from Belinda and it looks yummo!! The second is a CHRISTMAS COOKIE DOUGH recipe (those yummy sugar cookies) from Jo who is a great of thefamilyroom. I have to tell you, these sugar cookies are amazing. They are so good my children actually requested that I email Jo and ask her to send us the recipe. She has made them with my kids and they LOVE them.
Jo is an amazing cook/baker and I'll let you in on a little secret......She's given us a few other recipes to share and they are absolutely divine and I might ask her if she will spoil us and give us a recipe every 2nd month as a treat! Here's hoping :)
So, Christmas baking here we go:
Christmas Fruit and Nut Fudge by Belinda
Ingredients:
125g butter
395g can of NESTLE Sweetened Condensed milk
1 cup brown sugar
1 1/2 cups Nestle Melts dark
1 cup cubed sponge finger biscuits
1/4 cup roughly chopped roasted almonds
1/4 cup roughly chopped roasted cashews
1/2 cup halved red glazed cherries.
Method:
1. Place butter, NESTLE sweetened condensed milk and brown sugar in a pan.
Stir over a low heat until butter has melted. Bring to the boil,
simmer stirring for 3 minutes.
2. Add NESTLE melts dark, stir until combined and chocolate has melted. Stir
in sponge finger biscuits, nuts and cherries, mix well.
3. Spoon mixture evenly into foil lined 12cm x 23cm loaf pan, cool in
refrigerator until firm.
4. Turn out, cut into squares or slice to serve.
Christmas Cookie Dough by Jo
2 cups butter (softened)
2 cups icing mixture
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
2 eggs
5 cups plain flour
1 teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon baking powder
Method:
(Preheat Oven to 180'C (160'C fan forced))
1. Cream butter with icing sugar.
2. Beat in vanilla and eggs.
3. Mix together flour, salt and baking powder; add gradually to butter mix.
4. Chill for a couple of hours until mixture is firm enough to roll out.
5. Cook cookies on greased cookie sheets. Bake in a 180'C (160'C fan forced) oven for 8-12 mins. Remove as soon as they start to turn slightly brown on the edges. Leave on tray for 2-5 minutes, then onto cool surface.
(Do not leave on tray for too long, they will continue to cook.)
You can decorate them with icing (the kind with egg white in it to make it go hard) or they also taste great drizzled with a little chocolate. Get the kids involved and maybe buy some of those cute decorating bits from the supermarket ~ make them your own!
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
The War on Drugs
Yesterday seemed to be a day (for me) of being bombarded with drug related topics, reports and conversations.
As I was driving back from dropping the kids at school I heard a report that said only 50% of parents talk to their children about illegal drugs and only 30% talk to them about prescription drugs. I didn’t know where they were going with the prescription drugs but the report carried on saying that a new trend was growing within children, teens and young adults and the usage of prescription drugs.
According to the study and the report children, teens and young adults are finding that these prescription drugs are easy to come by either at home or at friend’s homes. Also, they are inexpensive because they aren’t paying the prescription price….the parents are. In an effort to trick parents they are finding that ‘mixing’ the drugs and making home-made cocktails gives them a better high and allows them access without it being obvious that medication is missing. These cocktails are proving to be deadly in some cases and highly addictive.
After that report and a few others I heard during the day I was at the gym working out and whilst doing so I like to watch TV (it keeps my mind off what I’m actually doing). I watched a show many of us are familiar with called ‘INTERVENTION’ and my heart was ripped out of my chest through the story of this young boy who started smoking marijuana at 12 and then moving onto harder, heavier stuff as he became inoculated to the ‘lighter’ drugs.
This boy was destroyed and his family in ruins. During the documentary he repeated how he needed it to dull the pain of life. He had been hurt as a child through divorce and other circumstances and to protect himself and hide he turned to drugs ~ he felt safe there and didn’t even care if it killed him. Very, very sad!
I tell you this today because we hear about the war on drugs on television, the newspaper, the Internet, through friends, etc. And one thing we hear through the people affected is that they never thought it would happen to them. I urge you today, be open with your children, whatever age they are and know that you MUST protect them. In doing so it will mean that at times you will be very unpopular with those in your care. Remember good parenting ISN’T about a popularity contest and we must not be afraid to do what’s right when it comes to thier lives. Love you children, communicate with them, be open and honest and don’t be afraid to show them what drugs CAN and WILL do to them.
This is a war, it is real and sadly the opportunities to engage aren’t far from our front doors. Be aware of your children’s friends, watch for changes in routine, personality, food intake and sleeping habits. These can all be signs that something is happening.
We believe in you and hope that this will alert you to the dangers that surround our children. Love them, protect them and remember we’ve been given two ears and one mouth for a reason…….Listen to them and be available.
Susan J Sohn
(for more familyroom discussion on drug related issues see our recent podcasts)
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