Over the past few years my parents have been thinking about moving from their farm into town. The conversation has progressed substantially, they have bought the house in town and this transition is slowly becoming a reality. Like many of you reading, you have gone down this road and made this transition, so you know exactly where I/we are right now. In preparation for this move the time has come for us kids to start picking and choosing things from the farm that we want ~ not an easy task that’s for sure.
I have thought long and hard about what it is that I want, what piece of the farm can I take with me that will allow me to remain close and connected to a place that saw me grow from a four year old pig-tailed little girl into a thirty-something woman? There are many things I have decided I would like however there is one thing that has stuck in my mind and I have finally I decided to ask for it. What is it you ask? The kitchen table!
You may think the kitchen table a strange request, however you must understand that in our house, like many of yours I’m sure, the kitchen table is the centre of so much, it’s almost like the central nervous system of the home. So much has happened and still happens around that table, so many hours of conversation whether it is the early morning coffee with the neighbors, warm winter breakfasts, dad’s 12pm lunch or the countless dinners that have been shared or maybe it’s the late night heart to hearts. Whatever the case may be our kitchen table has and continues to host much laughter, some tears, always great food, many jokes and so much more.
Over the years I have learned that a kitchen table isn’t simply wood and varnish rather it is like a giant memory box. The kitchen table is the gathering spot where life is shared, where dreams are realized, where vision is cast and where laughter can be heard. Sadly I see many new homes being built with no kitchen and no space for a kitchen table, this is a trend in the big cities that I see has not yet hit small town Saskatchewan and I hope it never does. This ‘new way’ of living is about eating out or individual eating in your bedroom in front of the computer or television. A travesty indeed.
There is something significant about kitchen/dining tables and as I look through history I see that through feasting and dining cultures come together. There is strength in breaking bread together as families and as communities. I think about Jesus and the last supper and the fact that it was shared at a table. I find it interesting that Jesus could have chosen anywhere for this significant act to occur yet he chose the table to share such an important moment. Through this one act I have to believe that there is a message to us all. Tables are sacred places. They are a place where we can come together to talk about the hard things, to relax and enjoy each other’s company, to communicate, to eat and to simply be together.
I would like to encourage you to use your dining table to it’s full potential. Through our work with thefamilyroom I have seen countless families come together, broken hearts mended and so much more simply through sitting at the table together, sharing a meal and getting back to what really matters. I find it interesting that we are designed to enjoy food more than once a day, we are designed to stop, sit and replenish so why not start making this a critical part of our family schedules.
If you haven’t enjoyed a meal together at the family table for awhile I would like to encourage you to dust off the table, let everyone know that dinner is on at 6pm, prepare a family favorite and watch everyone enjoy each others company. I know you will be amazed. If you find yourself alone and without family then I encourage you to extend yourself and invite someone to your table. If gathering at the table is something you do regularly then please keep it up and why not invite someone over and share the time together.
As many of you know I live away from family and have done so for many years now, this being the case, there is one thing I know for sure, if I call at dinner time I know I will always get an answer and if it’s a party or special occasion, and everyone’s home but me, as the phone is being passed around I know exactly where everyone will be sitting - being able to do this warms my soul and the simplicity of this allows me a feeling of everything being well with the world.
To conclude I am happy to report that my parents have said I can have the old kitchen table that still holds the chip that I etched out one warm summer day in 1978. I know that as the years continue and as life changes I will hear the voices of my family and friends simply by sitting at that table and allowing the richness and memories flood my mind. Let me encourage you to use your tables and remember to always put an extra potato in the pot or rice in the cooker and leave room to squeeze one more in just in case someone turns up at dinner time.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Sunday, March 23, 2008
HAPPY EASTER....
Enjoy your time with family, eat lots of chocolate (if you're allowed) and remember to have fun and laugh lots.
Keep it real and keep it simple.
Much love,
thefamilyroom crew
Monday, March 17, 2008
The Power of Your Story
Easter is creeping up on us quickly with the threat of enough chocolate eggs to fill a driveway. It is an exciting time for kids and adults alike with the promise of family gatherings and festivities over the short break.
Not only does this time of year herald the Easter Bunny and his diabetic inducing treats, but it also boasts one of the world’s most famous life stories of sacrifice and forgiveness. A story that has changed the lives of so many.
This started me thinking of the stories we all share along our journey that have or will bring help, empathy and understanding to so many around and beyond us. How many books have we read that give us a glimpse of how life panned out for others entailing their personal accounts of heartache, trials, support, overcoming and achievement?
Last night I was at a work function and the conversation turned to around to the story of my adoption and the sacrificial work of my parents who have been fostering children for nearly 50 years. It was amazing to hear the questions that spilled out, the interest that filled the room, the compassion that was shown and the stories that followed. What seems like an everyday run of the mill existence is new, interesting and often inspiring to someone else. I have personally felt more understood, challenged and inspired just by listening to the life stories my friends have bravely shared over the years.
Never underestimate the power of your story. As my mum always says, ‘Your trial is not always about you sweetheart, you never know who will need to hear about this in the future.’ Keeping that in mind, it helps put things into perspective and think outside myself.
Without a publisher or the talent of a wordsmith, all we need to do is open our mouths or in the Family Room way, write a blog. EVERYONE has a story and is worth the read. And the impact it could potentially have on someone going through a similar experience is priceless.
Have a brilliant Easter and listen to someone’s story and, if you’re feeling courageous enough, share yours!
Michaela.
Monday, March 10, 2008
TOCOPHOBIA
Hi everyone. I hope you are all well.
TOCOPHOBIA…… I wonder if any of you know what that word means. It’s definitely an interesting one.
I recently read an article in the Sunday paper about a disorder called “tocophobia”. According to the article many women suffer from it. What is it? Tocophobia is defined as “an abnormal and persistent fear of childbirth.”
In the article the author spoke of her desire to be a mother and her debilitating anxiety as she thought of the “damage” childbirth would do. Her fears were confirmed by friends who opening and rather graphically shared their colourful experiences. We have all been in those situations, hearing as some people call it, the war stories of pregnancy and childbirth.
As a midwife and a mother I can see the complexity of the situation. I am reminded once again that the way that we share our birth stories can impact those in our company. I can’t stress how important it is to keep the feelings and futures of those around us in mind as we share. Sadly, my 9-year-old daughter says she doesn’t want to have babies because it hurts too much. I know I am responsible for forming this opinion. It is a wake up call for me. I hope and pray that as I change the way I communicate about childbirth I can instill confidence in her and her approach to pregnancy and childbirth.
Annie
Friday, March 07, 2008
Lonely World - Part Two
After receiving so many emails from people about the last article 'Lonely World' I decided I needed to do a part two. Can I say that I would love it if you would convert your emails into comments on the blog itself. Although I do enjoy the emails I can tell you that many people would be encouraged and challenged by the comments you make to me personally.
I received and overwhelming response to the article and found that most people are willing to step out a little further and try and reach people. The challenge seems to be time and confidence. So, with this in mind I am going to try and give you a few tips on how to overcome these two challenges.
Time:
This is something thefamilyroom girls discuss regularly and it is something that most people grapple with. How do you find TIME to do what you need to do? In our busy schedules how do you carve out space for yourself, let alone space for someone else? Well friends, to have time you have to make time. I strongly suggest (as I have before) journal what your week looks like. Do it like you would a food diary (we've all had one of those at one time or another) if you will. Write everything down for an entire week. At the end of a week look at what you've accomplished and how much time you spent doing everything. Then, at the beginning of the following week set some goals, things that need to happen and again journal your week. At then end of that week, sit down and access.
In doing this simple exercise I'm confident you, like myself, will find time. You will realise that there are somethings you are doing that you don't need to, some you are taking to much time doing them, etc., etc., etc. Before you know it you will have found time to do something different and you will be using your time much more effectively.
This is a great exercise to do not only for yourself but for your family as a whole. You can also use it to help those friends whom you know are struggling with time.
Confidence:
This one is simple. Put one foot in front of the other and just make it happen. Do it with fear and trembling if you need to, just do it.
If you're inviting someone over for dinner cook something you know really well. You really don't need to turn into Martha Stewart overnight!!! People just want to be included, they aren't looking for a 5-star performance or a performance at all, they are simply looking for a sense of belonging and significance.
So, keep it simple. We've had some of our best parties or get together(s) simply by scouring the pantry and kitchen and pulling a meal together.
The main ingredients you will need: an open door, laughter and an interest in someone else.
You may be reading this saying, "this is easy for you, you're not me I don't know how to do this." To that I will remind you that I too had to start somewhere and put one foot in front of the other. You can do this and it's amazing how the simplest of things can make the biggest difference. Dare to be different and make a difference in someone else's life.
Susan J. Sohn
ps - remember if you need food ideas check out our archives for great, simple, familyroom tried and true recipes.
xoxo
I received and overwhelming response to the article and found that most people are willing to step out a little further and try and reach people. The challenge seems to be time and confidence. So, with this in mind I am going to try and give you a few tips on how to overcome these two challenges.
Time:
This is something thefamilyroom girls discuss regularly and it is something that most people grapple with. How do you find TIME to do what you need to do? In our busy schedules how do you carve out space for yourself, let alone space for someone else? Well friends, to have time you have to make time. I strongly suggest (as I have before) journal what your week looks like. Do it like you would a food diary (we've all had one of those at one time or another) if you will. Write everything down for an entire week. At the end of a week look at what you've accomplished and how much time you spent doing everything. Then, at the beginning of the following week set some goals, things that need to happen and again journal your week. At then end of that week, sit down and access.
In doing this simple exercise I'm confident you, like myself, will find time. You will realise that there are somethings you are doing that you don't need to, some you are taking to much time doing them, etc., etc., etc. Before you know it you will have found time to do something different and you will be using your time much more effectively.
This is a great exercise to do not only for yourself but for your family as a whole. You can also use it to help those friends whom you know are struggling with time.
Confidence:
This one is simple. Put one foot in front of the other and just make it happen. Do it with fear and trembling if you need to, just do it.
If you're inviting someone over for dinner cook something you know really well. You really don't need to turn into Martha Stewart overnight!!! People just want to be included, they aren't looking for a 5-star performance or a performance at all, they are simply looking for a sense of belonging and significance.
So, keep it simple. We've had some of our best parties or get together(s) simply by scouring the pantry and kitchen and pulling a meal together.
The main ingredients you will need: an open door, laughter and an interest in someone else.
You may be reading this saying, "this is easy for you, you're not me I don't know how to do this." To that I will remind you that I too had to start somewhere and put one foot in front of the other. You can do this and it's amazing how the simplest of things can make the biggest difference. Dare to be different and make a difference in someone else's life.
Susan J. Sohn
ps - remember if you need food ideas check out our archives for great, simple, familyroom tried and true recipes.
xoxo
Sunday, March 02, 2008
A Lonely World
As most of you know, our family have been in LA for the last few months. Having grown up in Canada, lived in Hong Kong and Sydney, Australia I consider myself to have lived in some of the most amazing places in the world, especially when it comes to community and hospitality. I now find myself in what they call the city of Angels and I have to believe it's called that because the need for Angels here is so huge. This is a big, lonely city and from what I can see, a city that has become hard and callous towards the human heart and emotions.
Yesterday I sat at my son's basketball game and chatted with a gentle, kind hearted father of one of the boys on the opposing team, we new each other because we were on the same soccer team last season. This nice man hails from Bombay, India and has been in LA for the past 12 years. In between our air punching and team chants and individual hoorays, we found space to have an incredible conversation. During our conversation he asked me what it was that I did; at which point I told him about thefamilyroom. He was extremely interested and began asking questions. As I answered, he asked more and finally began to share about his own life. With tears in his eyes he told me how his marriage was an arranged marriage and after years of trying to make it work, he found the challenge was maybe more than he could take. He told me that he had known his wife for all of 1 month before they wed. Our discussion was varied and included that of arranged marriages vs what he called ‘marriages of love’, we covered a great deal during that 60 minute game. He shared with me about living in LA and how different it was to India and how lonely he and his family were, how community just wasn't anything like he knew or loved. I could relate and understand. This conversation caused me to think and stirred me to write.
Whether you find yourself in a big city, medium sized city or small town and whether you yourself are lonely please understand that there are lonely people everywhere. According to a recent Harvard Study loneliness, which can lead to extreme depression, is becoming one of the top killers in society today. It's sad to think that we, as people, have become so distant from one another, especially when we know we were created to be in relationship and that our inner most being craves connectivity.
I would like to encourage you today, as we always do through thefamilyroom, to extend yourself. Invite someone over for dinner or out for coffee, open your hearts and doors and allow people in. Let’s dare to be different, dare to be known as people of kindness and generosity, allow your homes to be the homes on the street that people want to come to. Allow your home to be a light in a world where darkness, sadness and loneliness seem to be on the increase.
Through my conversation at the basketball game this man came to understand that I have a love for Indian food that stems from my childhood and amazing family friends. He learned that I enjoy cooking Indian food and that I'm not afraid to try anything. Interestingly enough, as I have said in the past, it is the dining table and food that will bring this man, his family and hopefully ours together and perhaps for one night their loneliness will be forgotten and replaced by a feeling of belonging, connectivity and community.
Imagine what the world would be like if we all cared just a little more.
Susan
Yesterday I sat at my son's basketball game and chatted with a gentle, kind hearted father of one of the boys on the opposing team, we new each other because we were on the same soccer team last season. This nice man hails from Bombay, India and has been in LA for the past 12 years. In between our air punching and team chants and individual hoorays, we found space to have an incredible conversation. During our conversation he asked me what it was that I did; at which point I told him about thefamilyroom. He was extremely interested and began asking questions. As I answered, he asked more and finally began to share about his own life. With tears in his eyes he told me how his marriage was an arranged marriage and after years of trying to make it work, he found the challenge was maybe more than he could take. He told me that he had known his wife for all of 1 month before they wed. Our discussion was varied and included that of arranged marriages vs what he called ‘marriages of love’, we covered a great deal during that 60 minute game. He shared with me about living in LA and how different it was to India and how lonely he and his family were, how community just wasn't anything like he knew or loved. I could relate and understand. This conversation caused me to think and stirred me to write.
Whether you find yourself in a big city, medium sized city or small town and whether you yourself are lonely please understand that there are lonely people everywhere. According to a recent Harvard Study loneliness, which can lead to extreme depression, is becoming one of the top killers in society today. It's sad to think that we, as people, have become so distant from one another, especially when we know we were created to be in relationship and that our inner most being craves connectivity.
I would like to encourage you today, as we always do through thefamilyroom, to extend yourself. Invite someone over for dinner or out for coffee, open your hearts and doors and allow people in. Let’s dare to be different, dare to be known as people of kindness and generosity, allow your homes to be the homes on the street that people want to come to. Allow your home to be a light in a world where darkness, sadness and loneliness seem to be on the increase.
Through my conversation at the basketball game this man came to understand that I have a love for Indian food that stems from my childhood and amazing family friends. He learned that I enjoy cooking Indian food and that I'm not afraid to try anything. Interestingly enough, as I have said in the past, it is the dining table and food that will bring this man, his family and hopefully ours together and perhaps for one night their loneliness will be forgotten and replaced by a feeling of belonging, connectivity and community.
Imagine what the world would be like if we all cared just a little more.
Susan
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Something New and Quick
Hey all hope your day is going well and if it's just started I hope it's a great one!
I've struggled today wondering what to post on the blog and have only now, at 11:52 am, realized what it is that I should write about. So friends today is super simple, it's short but it's good (at least I think so anyway)!
Today I want to encourage you to do a few things and they are:
1) Do something new: That's right, do something that you've never done before. What could that be? Cook something different for dinner, learn a new word and use it, learn about a country or people group that you know nothing about, listen to different music. I say this because I think it's important that we continue to grow and expand and learning is a great way to do that. Challenge your brain a little today.
2) Do something that scares you: Yes, step out into the 'scary, where fear and trembling happen and your palms sweat'. How can you do this? Call someone who has been on your mind and just let them know you've been thinking about them. This could be, and most probably will be, someone you don't usually talk to (that's the scary part) and at the risk of sounding silly know that you are letting them know they matter. Take a risk to believe the impossible because believing means you're half way there.
3) Love more: Change the worlds of those around you simply by showing your love more today than you have in the past. Surprise everyone with a little more.
That's all, three simple things that are inexpensive but perhaps costly emotionally and stretching personally. You can do this and can you imagine if all of us reading this did it ~ the world would be a different place.
We love you and believe in you. Remember to share your stories with us.
Susan J. Sohn
I've struggled today wondering what to post on the blog and have only now, at 11:52 am, realized what it is that I should write about. So friends today is super simple, it's short but it's good (at least I think so anyway)!
Today I want to encourage you to do a few things and they are:
1) Do something new: That's right, do something that you've never done before. What could that be? Cook something different for dinner, learn a new word and use it, learn about a country or people group that you know nothing about, listen to different music. I say this because I think it's important that we continue to grow and expand and learning is a great way to do that. Challenge your brain a little today.
2) Do something that scares you: Yes, step out into the 'scary, where fear and trembling happen and your palms sweat'. How can you do this? Call someone who has been on your mind and just let them know you've been thinking about them. This could be, and most probably will be, someone you don't usually talk to (that's the scary part) and at the risk of sounding silly know that you are letting them know they matter. Take a risk to believe the impossible because believing means you're half way there.
3) Love more: Change the worlds of those around you simply by showing your love more today than you have in the past. Surprise everyone with a little more.
That's all, three simple things that are inexpensive but perhaps costly emotionally and stretching personally. You can do this and can you imagine if all of us reading this did it ~ the world would be a different place.
We love you and believe in you. Remember to share your stories with us.
Susan J. Sohn
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
Today He's 40!
Today is a big day for our family, it is my hubby’s birthday and he is 40 and I'm almost speechless. Where have the years gone? It's almost like yesterday we were standing at the altar saying 'I do' and in a blink our first was born, quick on her heels our second and then like a flash our baby and now 40 years old.
I’ve found myself smiling today, almost breaking out into laughter realizing that my man is 40. I’ve almost had to pinch myself in order to wake up from this dream I seem to be in. He’s 40 and I honestly believe we are entering into some of the best years of our life. We’ve said good bye to the early years of marriage, nappies, most sleepless nights, diaper rash and all the rest that we all know so well.
What’s really funny about Philip’s birthday is that last night our family went out for a quick meal and both Philip and I were asked for ID when ordering a glass of wine with dinner. We both looked at each other, had a giggle and eagerly handed over our ID. Once the waiter realized our ages he was quick to ask what kind of diet we were on and what was in the water we were drinking. He told us that he thought Philip was around 27 and me 25 and wasn’t convinced our 3 children could be ours.......very funny and needless to say rather uplifting.
What does 40 look like in our house? A fit, healthy man who loves God, his wife, children, family and friends. He is kind, gentle and very funny, he is firm and affirming. He is strong and loving and he can laugh at himself. He lights up the room with his smile and his children and wife adore him. He is business minded but is generously seasoned with creativity. He loves to snowboard, skateboard, play poker with friends, sing for hours and loves a good game of chess. He is adventurous and spontaneous yet extremely well planned. Simply put, “He makes 40 look great”!
I will sign off today with a word of encouragement to those of you who have already reached this milestone, stay strong, keep running the race and run well. For those of you who are closing in on 40 get excited because from what I can see it only gets better. For me I’m excited today because I can see a few gray hairs and a few tiny wrinkles that remind me how divine my hubby is and how the years of good, hard and otherwise have shaped him and prepared him for the years ahead.
Truly life begins at 40!!!!
I’ve found myself smiling today, almost breaking out into laughter realizing that my man is 40. I’ve almost had to pinch myself in order to wake up from this dream I seem to be in. He’s 40 and I honestly believe we are entering into some of the best years of our life. We’ve said good bye to the early years of marriage, nappies, most sleepless nights, diaper rash and all the rest that we all know so well.
What’s really funny about Philip’s birthday is that last night our family went out for a quick meal and both Philip and I were asked for ID when ordering a glass of wine with dinner. We both looked at each other, had a giggle and eagerly handed over our ID. Once the waiter realized our ages he was quick to ask what kind of diet we were on and what was in the water we were drinking. He told us that he thought Philip was around 27 and me 25 and wasn’t convinced our 3 children could be ours.......very funny and needless to say rather uplifting.
What does 40 look like in our house? A fit, healthy man who loves God, his wife, children, family and friends. He is kind, gentle and very funny, he is firm and affirming. He is strong and loving and he can laugh at himself. He lights up the room with his smile and his children and wife adore him. He is business minded but is generously seasoned with creativity. He loves to snowboard, skateboard, play poker with friends, sing for hours and loves a good game of chess. He is adventurous and spontaneous yet extremely well planned. Simply put, “He makes 40 look great”!
I will sign off today with a word of encouragement to those of you who have already reached this milestone, stay strong, keep running the race and run well. For those of you who are closing in on 40 get excited because from what I can see it only gets better. For me I’m excited today because I can see a few gray hairs and a few tiny wrinkles that remind me how divine my hubby is and how the years of good, hard and otherwise have shaped him and prepared him for the years ahead.
Truly life begins at 40!!!!
Monday, February 25, 2008
The Five Love Languages of Children - Book Review
I am currently in the grip of reading ‘The Five Love Languages of Children’ by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell, which is fantastic it's almost like I'm having a personal revelation regarding my children!
In the book, they talk about kids needing Quality time, Words of affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical touch. Each child obviously needs all of these but will respond to one or two more than others. I’m not going to say much about the book because I truly believe that every parent should read, it's a MUST read really. All I will say is that I love the idea that we are able to find what melts our kids hearts best and approach them from that angle. We are we are seeing amazing results.
I know with my kids, time to laugh and play and talk is so important. Also something simple like making their beds (they usually have to do it themselves), cleaning their rooms and leaving a little 'something special' like a flower in my daughters room or a treat for my son causes them to respond beautifully ~ Acts of Service speaks volumes to their little hearts, minds and souls. Another thing I do occasionally is pop notes in their lunch boxes or bags and leave goofy letters in lipstick on the bathroom mirror just for fun. Simple things!!!
Recently, due to work and other influences my life is becoming increasingly busy and I am finding it a real challenge to pull everything together. Through this book I have been inspired to get back to what’s important and give my kids time and time that is focussed on making them blossom and flourish.
The other day we were riding our bikes and my daughter asked (actually yelled at) her brother to go on ahead which he eventually did. She and I then chatted about school and this and that, then she came out with some great questions that were really private in her little world and I’m so glad I had ears to listen and was available for her at that moment ~ Quality Time.
These little lives are entrusted to us and I want to be the best I can be despite the excuses and all the reasons why it’s too hard.….. I can't encourage you enough to buy or borrow this book, it’s a winner!
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Code of Conduct
I heard it said once that if you stand for nothing you will fall for anything. I think that’s an extremely powerful statement. I know in my own life there have been moments and situations that I have been saved from, simply because I knew exactly where I stood personally and at times corporately.
Hearing this statement caused me to consider my life today. I am a wife and mother of three who, together with my husband Philip, are trying to raise strong, confident, compassionate children who will hopefully make a difference in this world. With this in mind I’ve realised that it is incumbent upon Philip and myself to know exactly where we stand and what we believe in so that we can give our children a foundation to stand on.
This brings me to the Code of Conduct, which means ‘a set of conventional principles and expectations that are considered binding on any person who is a member of a particular group’. We need to establish our own, personal Family Code of Conduct, this will allow each person the ability to know exactly what we as families stand for and what the expectations are of everyone in the group/family. The grey is erased, everyone is on solid, common ground and together families can move forward.
I’m not naïve enough to think that something like this will save us all from possible heart ache, pain and tears that will be shed over the years. However I do believe that when there is a common goal and a thread that brings us together as families, when we know what we stand for, falling for anything else is a lot harder. When we come face-to-face with the possibility of falling that’s when we hear that still small voice that calls us back and helps us to stand in the midst of craziness, strangeness, darkness and confusion.
Whatever the age of your children or grandchildren talk to them and together; establish your own Family Code of Conduct.
Susan
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Rape.... Information that could save your life!
This email was recently sent to me and I thought I would share it with everyone. This is a delicate subject but like anything else, thefamilyroom chooses to hit things head on. I believe one of our best defenses is to be aware so read on and keep this information locked away somewhere and always pray for safety for your life and the lives of other girls on the planet. It's a little long but there are things in here that I never knew so PLEASE READ.
Through a Rapist’s Eyes
This is important information for females of ALL ages . Guys - please forward to the female members of your family and all your female friends and associates.
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone. Please pass it along.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts :
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you p ut up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming .
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to ge t really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.
Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
Through a Rapist’s Eyes
This is important information for females of ALL ages . Guys - please forward to the female members of your family and all your female friends and associates.
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends. I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone. Please pass it along.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts :
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots . Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you p ut up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming .
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to ge t really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.
Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
Monday, February 18, 2008
Spaghetti with cherry tomatoes
As newly-weds, my husband and I found this recipe in a magazine almost 20 years ago, but it still features regularly at our dinner table today. We love the gutsy flavours and simple preparation. Occasionally, we’ve been known to throw in a bunch of baby spinach leaves or dress it up with pancetta instead of bacon, but mostly we come back to the original tried and true. We’ve long since lost the magazine clipping of the recipe, so the amounts stated below are guess-timates. Don’t be concerned though, add each ingredient to taste and enjoy the variety!
2 cloves garlic, chopped
1 tbs oil
½ tsp dried chilli flakes
300g bacon, diced
3 punnets cherry tomatoes, halved
Handful of parsley, chopped
Spaghetti
Serves 4
1. Bring a large pan of salted water to the boil and add enough spaghetti for four people. Cook according to the packet instructions.
2. Meanwhile, heat the oil in a large frying pan or wok over a medium heat. Add the garlic and fry for a few seconds.
3. Add the bacon and chilli flakes. Cook for 3-4 minutes until the bacon is slighlty browned but still soft.
4. Add the cherry tomatoes and cook for about 5 minutes until they have softened slighlty, but still retain their shape.
5. Add the parsley and stir through.
6. Drain the spaghetti. If your frying pan is big enough, add it to the tomato mixture and stir through. If not, simply heap the spaghetti into pasta bowls and top with the tomatoes.
Serve with a green salad or simply with crusty bread to mop up the sweet tomato juices.
Enjoy!
Deborah
Friday, February 15, 2008
Simple Pleasures
Beads are beautiful.
I love their shapes and sizes, their textures and colours. I love the way they shimmer in the light and turn drabness into drama wherever they are used.
Best of all, I love that creative minds of all ages can transform a disjointed jumble of gems into a wearable work of art in a few moments.
So it was with great delight, I recently heard that a friend had begun beading for charity. Within a few short weeks she had progressed from stringing basic bangles to creating stunning necklaces in eye-catching colours which I know for a fact found their way under many Christmas trees in our village.
When she invited me to join her for a morning, I jumped at the chance, and as we carefully threaded gorgeous glass balls onto long strands of flexible wire, she shared with me her best, and most unexpected, beading discovery.
She revealed that her peaceful pastime had captured the interest of her pre-teen daughter, who had come alongside to join in her charitable pursuit.
As the two crafted necklaces, bangles and earrings, they enjoyed hours of warm conversation covering topics they might otherwise have avoided. A new bond was formed between mother and daughter.
It only takes a few simple tools and techniques to start beading and most of these can be found in any book or magazine on the subject, but as those of us who’ve tried it can testify, it’s a simple pleasure that promises rich rewards.
Have a go!
Deborah
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!!!
Hey everyone today is a super quick blog and it's simply to say Happy Valentine's Day to all. I know those of you in the Northern Hemisphere aren't there yet but others are so why not start celebrating early.
I thought I would share a few essential ingredients to create an amazing day/night with your husband, wife or better half.
1) Make sure you let go of the worries from the day.
2) Try and plan something (a familyroom secret.... be organized).
3) Remember to laugh.
4) Remember to tell your date how great they look.
5) Make sure you shower and girls feel free to make 'good' use of a razor.
6) Drink Champagne for no reason at all other than BECAUSE.
7) Don't forget to say 'I Love You'.
8) Wear deodorant.
9) If you're cooking something new ~ keep an eye on the directions/instructions.
10)If you're heading out to a new area print out directions (avoid a domestic at all costs).
11)Give the babysitter a little extra ~ remember, they were alone for the night and probably wishing they weren't.
12)Play tacky 80's love songs.
13)If you're ordering in and pretending you've cooked everything make sure you take the evidence to the outside trash/rubbish.
14)Don't dribble chocolate sauce on your top, keep your head well over your plate.
15)Make sure your breath is fresh.
16)Relax and enjoy your night together.
Have fun and make sure you tell us what you did in our comments section.
Happy Valentine's Day everyone :))))
Susan and Crew
Friday, February 08, 2008
Parenting......the joys of!
Ah the joys of parenting ~ there truly never is a dull moment!
It all seems to start with the unbelievable nappies/diapers, cracked nipples, hormone surges that make you feel 100% insane one moment and on top of the world the next plus the added bonus of left over baby fat that jiggles on your tummy like rising bread dough (that’s one of my favourites). Then of course you move into the biting stage and the screaming in the supermarket followed by the homework in grade 1 (what the heck is that about) science projects in grade 5, the school dance in grade 6 & 7 and then it all begins again in High School with acne issues, hormones again, the sleeping in and everything else that goes along with the teenage years.
Ah the joys of parenting…… I wouldn’t want another job!
Today I thought I would share a special parenting moment with you. My birthday is quickly approaching and I love birthdays. I love celebrating, I love that I have another year under my belt and I love that I feel great and I think I’m looking pretty okay as well ☺!!!! Anyway, my two year old (soon to be three) jumps into bed this morning telling me how much she loves me and how happy she is that I’m her mummy. She cuddles me with all her might, lays a very sloppy morning kiss right on my lips, squeezes me again and with this squeeze tells me, “mummy, you look old”! She kisses me again, jumps over to her dad to tell him how much she loves him then bounces out of bed on a mission to wake the rest of the sleeping family.
Ah the joys of parenting…….. I’ve heard it said that if you want the truth about something ask your children especially your teenagers. With that thought in mind I’ve been telling myself all day that to her looking old has to be a good thing.
I sign off smiling to myself recognising that to my darling daughter I must look very old and in her little mind and heart that’s a good thing.
Have the best day and share some of your parenting moments with us.
Susan
It all seems to start with the unbelievable nappies/diapers, cracked nipples, hormone surges that make you feel 100% insane one moment and on top of the world the next plus the added bonus of left over baby fat that jiggles on your tummy like rising bread dough (that’s one of my favourites). Then of course you move into the biting stage and the screaming in the supermarket followed by the homework in grade 1 (what the heck is that about) science projects in grade 5, the school dance in grade 6 & 7 and then it all begins again in High School with acne issues, hormones again, the sleeping in and everything else that goes along with the teenage years.
Ah the joys of parenting…… I wouldn’t want another job!
Today I thought I would share a special parenting moment with you. My birthday is quickly approaching and I love birthdays. I love celebrating, I love that I have another year under my belt and I love that I feel great and I think I’m looking pretty okay as well ☺!!!! Anyway, my two year old (soon to be three) jumps into bed this morning telling me how much she loves me and how happy she is that I’m her mummy. She cuddles me with all her might, lays a very sloppy morning kiss right on my lips, squeezes me again and with this squeeze tells me, “mummy, you look old”! She kisses me again, jumps over to her dad to tell him how much she loves him then bounces out of bed on a mission to wake the rest of the sleeping family.
Ah the joys of parenting…….. I’ve heard it said that if you want the truth about something ask your children especially your teenagers. With that thought in mind I’ve been telling myself all day that to her looking old has to be a good thing.
I sign off smiling to myself recognising that to my darling daughter I must look very old and in her little mind and heart that’s a good thing.
Have the best day and share some of your parenting moments with us.
Susan
Thursday, February 07, 2008
Be Informed
In our world of current affair shows, spin doctors and a bad news sells media approach it is difficult to know what to believe or at times where you stand on issues. More and more we are being bombarded by opinions from the so-called ‘experts’ and issues from far and wide makes it all become extremely overwhelming at times.
It would appear that gone are the days when a journalist’s prime motivation and purpose was to reveal the truth and approach every story in an objective manner. With all of this information, becoming somewhat chaotic at times, what does the average Joe do when he wants to get a handle on what is happening in his or her community, city and the world?
From my perspective there are two choices we need to make. The first choice would be to ignore it all and live in a little bubble in your own back yard. To do this you would need to turn off the television and radio plus stop you would have to stop your newspaper and magazine delivery service and for goodness sakes you would have to stay off line! Appealing as this sounds (at times) it probably isn’t the most socially responsible option.
The second choice I believe is to be informed. Know what you stand for and I mean really know what you stand for and why you stand for whatever it is you are standing for (that sounded funny). Read as much as you can, however keep in mind that most of your sources have an agenda so don’t take everything as fact (also the Star or News of the World probably isn’t the most factual of publications….anyone who has watched ‘So I married and Axe Murderer’ knows what I’m talking about). If you feel really strongly about an issue, take action. Write to the person who has influence in the area you are concerned with and let your well thought out, valid thoughts be heard.
Remember, we can all make a difference in this world and we all have a voice.
Annie
It would appear that gone are the days when a journalist’s prime motivation and purpose was to reveal the truth and approach every story in an objective manner. With all of this information, becoming somewhat chaotic at times, what does the average Joe do when he wants to get a handle on what is happening in his or her community, city and the world?
From my perspective there are two choices we need to make. The first choice would be to ignore it all and live in a little bubble in your own back yard. To do this you would need to turn off the television and radio plus stop you would have to stop your newspaper and magazine delivery service and for goodness sakes you would have to stay off line! Appealing as this sounds (at times) it probably isn’t the most socially responsible option.
The second choice I believe is to be informed. Know what you stand for and I mean really know what you stand for and why you stand for whatever it is you are standing for (that sounded funny). Read as much as you can, however keep in mind that most of your sources have an agenda so don’t take everything as fact (also the Star or News of the World probably isn’t the most factual of publications….anyone who has watched ‘So I married and Axe Murderer’ knows what I’m talking about). If you feel really strongly about an issue, take action. Write to the person who has influence in the area you are concerned with and let your well thought out, valid thoughts be heard.
Remember, we can all make a difference in this world and we all have a voice.
Annie
Wednesday, February 06, 2008
Walnut and Parsley Pesto
Hi friends, here is a quick and tasty recipe I have developed as an alternative to traditional pesto (hence the slap dash nature of the recipe!).
I find it amazing how we can whip things up from the contents in our kitchen and (at times) our gardens if we have. With a little thought and some charm we can come up with some taste sensations..... Our family enjoyed this one so I thought I would share. Enjoy!
Ingredients
1 cup walnuts (or pecans, macadamias…)
11/2 cups roughly chopped flat leaf parsley
½ cup freshly grated romano cheese
5 cloves garlic roughly chopped
½ teaspoon salt
extra virgin olive oil (about 1/3 cup)
I make this in a food processor by putting all of the ingredients into the bowl and drizzling olive oil in as it whizzes. You know you have enough oil when the mixture is ground (not too smooth!) and saucy.
I serve this sauce with fresh pasta, it's also great on foccacia, baked vegetables or simply as a dip with some baked pita chips or crackers.
Annie
I find it amazing how we can whip things up from the contents in our kitchen and (at times) our gardens if we have. With a little thought and some charm we can come up with some taste sensations..... Our family enjoyed this one so I thought I would share. Enjoy!
Ingredients
1 cup walnuts (or pecans, macadamias…)
11/2 cups roughly chopped flat leaf parsley
½ cup freshly grated romano cheese
5 cloves garlic roughly chopped
½ teaspoon salt
extra virgin olive oil (about 1/3 cup)
I make this in a food processor by putting all of the ingredients into the bowl and drizzling olive oil in as it whizzes. You know you have enough oil when the mixture is ground (not too smooth!) and saucy.
I serve this sauce with fresh pasta, it's also great on foccacia, baked vegetables or simply as a dip with some baked pita chips or crackers.
Annie
Tuesday, February 05, 2008
The Library
I love reading and I truly believe that reading is a crucial ingredient that we need in our make up as individuals and people on this planet. This amazing ingredient has much to do with how we influence our world. Reading opens doors to worlds unknown, it allows our imagination to fly away, it gives opportunity to get lost amidst words that are at times new to us. Reading is so much more that letters formed into words that become sentences that establish paragraphs. Reading introduces us to more than we can really understand.
Here are a few great quotes surrounding reading that I love and thought I would share with everyone:
“The more you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
- Dr. Seuss, "I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!"
“No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance.”
- Confucius
“Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.”
- Harry S. Truman
This afternoon my three children and I went to the library after school, which a regular activity for our family. I love going to the library and watching my children get lost in the books around them. I’m always interested to see what actually catches their eye. Through books and this easy observance I learn more about my children each visit. My eldest is a voracious reader so we go to ‘keep him fed’. My daughter has only in recent times become interested in books and reading and today she chose a book for her to read and one for me to read to her. My little four year old chose some picture books and videos. I chose Roald Dahl and Horrible Histories talking books for the car. We left extremely satisfied and armed with something new to discover.
If you are library people then keep going, if you aren’t yet I encourage you to include this in your family routine. Libraries aren’t just for ‘bookworms’, they are for everyone and it’s actually a really relaxing way to spend a few hours with your children whatever their age. You may have a teenager who enjoys reading or has a special interest hobby that you don’t know much about or perhaps you’re simply trying to find a way to spend time together. Suggest the Library and you yourself get interested in what they are interested in. It’s amazing how neutral ground can break ground and bring people together. Libraries are also a convenient and economical resource as well as being integral to both our development and our children’s. Do something new and visit yours today I promise you will be surprised at the way they have changed over the years....you will love it.
Annie xx
Here are a few great quotes surrounding reading that I love and thought I would share with everyone:
“The more you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go.”
- Dr. Seuss, "I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!"
“No matter how busy you may think you are, you must find time for reading, or surrender yourself to self-chosen ignorance.”
- Confucius
“Not all readers are leaders, but all leaders are readers.”
- Harry S. Truman
This afternoon my three children and I went to the library after school, which a regular activity for our family. I love going to the library and watching my children get lost in the books around them. I’m always interested to see what actually catches their eye. Through books and this easy observance I learn more about my children each visit. My eldest is a voracious reader so we go to ‘keep him fed’. My daughter has only in recent times become interested in books and reading and today she chose a book for her to read and one for me to read to her. My little four year old chose some picture books and videos. I chose Roald Dahl and Horrible Histories talking books for the car. We left extremely satisfied and armed with something new to discover.
If you are library people then keep going, if you aren’t yet I encourage you to include this in your family routine. Libraries aren’t just for ‘bookworms’, they are for everyone and it’s actually a really relaxing way to spend a few hours with your children whatever their age. You may have a teenager who enjoys reading or has a special interest hobby that you don’t know much about or perhaps you’re simply trying to find a way to spend time together. Suggest the Library and you yourself get interested in what they are interested in. It’s amazing how neutral ground can break ground and bring people together. Libraries are also a convenient and economical resource as well as being integral to both our development and our children’s. Do something new and visit yours today I promise you will be surprised at the way they have changed over the years....you will love it.
Annie xx
Monday, February 04, 2008
Parenting with the End in Mind
Hi everyone I hope 2008 is proving to be good to you so far.
Thus far 08 has been unexpected, crazy and great for us as a family. I feel like I’ve strapped on my seatbel and am preparing for the ride! In the midst of this new season I’ve found myself thinking about thefamilyroom, our personal lives and why we care so much about raising great kids, having great marriages and family relationships, or why we would even bother to get on with our neighbours and community (thinking about things beyond the obvious reasons of WHY).
I've come to the conclusion that without a foundation or a reason to work hard at building full lives, it can all become all too hard and we can too easily give in and take the easy road. I have to admit, as a mother of two and a wife, at times it truly is easier to give in to whining or to make a sarcastic comment to your hubby or to simply give the silent treatment and stay there for as long as you can. This is why I believe a foundation with reason is necessary. As Susan always says, “explain the why behind the what.”
I’m currently reading a pretty intense book that was given to me for Christmas. The book is called ‘Parenting for a Peaceful World’. It’s not so much about parenting as it is about why we parent the way we do. It looks at the way people have parented through the ages and how that has brought us today. It shows generations of people both functional and dysfunctional and my gosh so much more.
It is proving to be an interesting read and is challenging some of my thinking. Although I don’t agree with everything written and find it a bit over the top at times, what I have found very interesting is that it has made me go back to basics and think about why I bother to do the things I do. It’s made me think about things like:
What motivates me to be a great mum, wife, friend, and daughter?
Sometimes love isn’t enough….we are innately selfish beings?
Love is often a choice rather than a force or a feeling.
Through this thought pattern and questioning I have learned that I choose to love because I have a foundational belief that my life is bigger than just me. I choose to do the hard things (mostly), work out conflicts and follow through with discipline because I have a goal and purpose. I want to look back on my life and feel that I have been true to my goals and my dreams. An example of this is that I dream of having great adult relationships with my kids. I want to stay close to them, so I need to parent with the end in mind. This thought and dream helps me get through those hard days/moments.
With the above in mind I will throw out a few questions today and hopefully inspire your thinking as well:
What are your beliefs?
What are your goals and dreams for your family and the other significant relationships in your life?
How will you parent/relate to these people to achieve that end?
We’re all on an incredibly journey; I just think the ride is and can be a little easier if we know where we’re going (the general direction anyway) and how we’re going to get there, at least the bigger picture.
We would love to hear some of your goals and dreams for your family (where ever you are on this journey) and how you’re going to get there…any tips along the way are always welcome!
Have a great week
Lv Jane
Thus far 08 has been unexpected, crazy and great for us as a family. I feel like I’ve strapped on my seatbel and am preparing for the ride! In the midst of this new season I’ve found myself thinking about thefamilyroom, our personal lives and why we care so much about raising great kids, having great marriages and family relationships, or why we would even bother to get on with our neighbours and community (thinking about things beyond the obvious reasons of WHY).
I've come to the conclusion that without a foundation or a reason to work hard at building full lives, it can all become all too hard and we can too easily give in and take the easy road. I have to admit, as a mother of two and a wife, at times it truly is easier to give in to whining or to make a sarcastic comment to your hubby or to simply give the silent treatment and stay there for as long as you can. This is why I believe a foundation with reason is necessary. As Susan always says, “explain the why behind the what.”
I’m currently reading a pretty intense book that was given to me for Christmas. The book is called ‘Parenting for a Peaceful World’. It’s not so much about parenting as it is about why we parent the way we do. It looks at the way people have parented through the ages and how that has brought us today. It shows generations of people both functional and dysfunctional and my gosh so much more.
It is proving to be an interesting read and is challenging some of my thinking. Although I don’t agree with everything written and find it a bit over the top at times, what I have found very interesting is that it has made me go back to basics and think about why I bother to do the things I do. It’s made me think about things like:
What motivates me to be a great mum, wife, friend, and daughter?
Sometimes love isn’t enough….we are innately selfish beings?
Love is often a choice rather than a force or a feeling.
Through this thought pattern and questioning I have learned that I choose to love because I have a foundational belief that my life is bigger than just me. I choose to do the hard things (mostly), work out conflicts and follow through with discipline because I have a goal and purpose. I want to look back on my life and feel that I have been true to my goals and my dreams. An example of this is that I dream of having great adult relationships with my kids. I want to stay close to them, so I need to parent with the end in mind. This thought and dream helps me get through those hard days/moments.
With the above in mind I will throw out a few questions today and hopefully inspire your thinking as well:
What are your beliefs?
What are your goals and dreams for your family and the other significant relationships in your life?
How will you parent/relate to these people to achieve that end?
We’re all on an incredibly journey; I just think the ride is and can be a little easier if we know where we’re going (the general direction anyway) and how we’re going to get there, at least the bigger picture.
We would love to hear some of your goals and dreams for your family (where ever you are on this journey) and how you’re going to get there…any tips along the way are always welcome!
Have a great week
Lv Jane
Friday, February 01, 2008
The Family Tree
Those of you who have been with us for awhile now, know that thefamilyroom crew are constantly thinking of ways to enrich our families lives. After getting my head around some family issues I have been faced with as of late, I started thinking of my family as tree (analytically speaking) and realised there are many similarities to each organism.
Every tree starts out small with intent to grow up and become strong, as does a family. With this in mind, I thought I’d ask myself some basic questions regarding the elements required to keep both a tree and a family healthy.
1. What am I feeding my family? Will it sustain it for the long haul?
2. When the floods of life come along, will my family stand strong?
3. Is my family reproducing itself? And if so, are the offshoots healthy?
4. Is my family’s fruit sweet or sour?
5. Does my family provide shelter and strength for those around us?
6. Are there things in my family that need ‘pruning’ or do I let them hang on?
7. When my family is feeling frail is strong support at the ready to tie it to?
Just a few thoughts. It’s always good to break things down and take stock every once in a while.
Michaela.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
Don't sweat the small stuff
A few years ago I attended a one-day course in Microsoft Outlook, learning how to use the email application in a better and more efficient way.
The teacher talked us through task lists, calendars and inbox management and she drilled into us the four golden rules – Do it, Delete it, Delay it or Delegate it. And I should point out there that delay means choose a date when you’re going to do it not just leave it in your inbox forever and ever.
Since that day, the company hosting the course has unfailingly furnished me with its monthly newsletter. But instead of being packed with tech talk and boring bits as you might expect, it actually contains some surprising pearls of wisdom.
So when this month’s issue landed in my inbox yesterday, an item about cutting down on the anxiety in our lives caught my eye. And, courtesy of Priority Management International, I’m sharing it with you today. You might find something in here that strikes a chord.
Enjoy!
Deborah
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF ... AND IT'S ALL SMALL STUFF
If you ask any senior citizen for their advice on an issue they will invariably tell you not to worry so much. Indeed, many will tell you that they wish they had taken more risks during their lifetime because most of what they feared never actually came to pass. Whether it be an argument with your partner, child or work colleague, a mistake you have made, an opportunity missed or a bad cold, chances are, that six months from now you simply aren’t going to care. It will have faded into distant memory – just one more irrelevant detail in your life.
So here are five profound pieces of wisdom that you should take to heart in order to not let the little things take over your life.
1. Take Ownership
You and you alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. However much you might think otherwise, no-one else is to blame for how you feel and no-one else but yourself can stop you from feeling stressed. So take ownership for your moods and stop the blame game today!
2. Don’t Escalate
External events, both trivial and traumatic cannot of themselves make you stressed – it is how you think and react to the event that causes you stress. Stop escalating every event that happens to a level it doesn’t warrant.
3. Alter Your Attitude
You really can, as William James discovered, “alter your life by altering your attitude”. You can choose how to feel just like you can choose how to behave. Start today to be more positive about the life you lead.
4. Control Your Mind
Don’t be a “stinkin’ thinkin'” kind of person. Stinking thinkers cannot control their thoughts and exaggerate the seriousness of every situation. They think themselves into feelings that things are falling apart, are dreadful, terrible and then start to make foolish and unrealistic demands of themselves and the people around them.
5. Be Objective
You will be much less vulnerable to feeling stressed if you take on the “don’t sweat the small stuff – it’s all small stuff” mantra. Remember that stress is always subjective, your emotional reaction to an outside event.
The teacher talked us through task lists, calendars and inbox management and she drilled into us the four golden rules – Do it, Delete it, Delay it or Delegate it. And I should point out there that delay means choose a date when you’re going to do it not just leave it in your inbox forever and ever.
Since that day, the company hosting the course has unfailingly furnished me with its monthly newsletter. But instead of being packed with tech talk and boring bits as you might expect, it actually contains some surprising pearls of wisdom.
So when this month’s issue landed in my inbox yesterday, an item about cutting down on the anxiety in our lives caught my eye. And, courtesy of Priority Management International, I’m sharing it with you today. You might find something in here that strikes a chord.
Enjoy!
Deborah
DON’T SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF ... AND IT'S ALL SMALL STUFF
If you ask any senior citizen for their advice on an issue they will invariably tell you not to worry so much. Indeed, many will tell you that they wish they had taken more risks during their lifetime because most of what they feared never actually came to pass. Whether it be an argument with your partner, child or work colleague, a mistake you have made, an opportunity missed or a bad cold, chances are, that six months from now you simply aren’t going to care. It will have faded into distant memory – just one more irrelevant detail in your life.
So here are five profound pieces of wisdom that you should take to heart in order to not let the little things take over your life.
1. Take Ownership
You and you alone are responsible for your feelings and emotions. However much you might think otherwise, no-one else is to blame for how you feel and no-one else but yourself can stop you from feeling stressed. So take ownership for your moods and stop the blame game today!
2. Don’t Escalate
External events, both trivial and traumatic cannot of themselves make you stressed – it is how you think and react to the event that causes you stress. Stop escalating every event that happens to a level it doesn’t warrant.
3. Alter Your Attitude
You really can, as William James discovered, “alter your life by altering your attitude”. You can choose how to feel just like you can choose how to behave. Start today to be more positive about the life you lead.
4. Control Your Mind
Don’t be a “stinkin’ thinkin'” kind of person. Stinking thinkers cannot control their thoughts and exaggerate the seriousness of every situation. They think themselves into feelings that things are falling apart, are dreadful, terrible and then start to make foolish and unrealistic demands of themselves and the people around them.
5. Be Objective
You will be much less vulnerable to feeling stressed if you take on the “don’t sweat the small stuff – it’s all small stuff” mantra. Remember that stress is always subjective, your emotional reaction to an outside event.
Monday, January 28, 2008
Health and Fitness 08
For many of you 'regular readers' you know that in February 07 Belinda Dell and I decided to get serious with our fitness level. As we approach February 08 I'm happy to report that we, and now along with many others who have joined us, are still on track and going strong.
We will again start to update you regularly and let you know how we are going. You will also need to keep an eye on our Facebook Group and the videos I love so much because I might, just might be considering taking you into the gym with me (to join our Facebook Group go to http://www.facebook.com and then search the family room). I have found that so many of us get 'stuck' on the couch, watching those darn infomercials and forget that we actually have to get up, put on our joggers (running shoes) and get moving. Through sharing my routine with a few friends and just a few very simple things I am doing somehow I think I've managed to de-mystify the dreaded exercise routine and make it do-able for everyone. I just need you to promise not to laugh at my outfit - don't worry I ditched the late 90's thong number with the spandex.....what a disaster that was!!!!!
So today, January 28, 2008 allow me to be that voice of encouragement once more that would say, "come on people let's move, let's make a difference in our own lives and the lives of those depending on us!" You won't regret making a change, I can tell you that I feel so much better today than I did January 2007 (prior to getting serious) and I know January 2009 is going to be amazing as I continue to build Health and Fitness into my life.
Let's get moving!
Susan
We will again start to update you regularly and let you know how we are going. You will also need to keep an eye on our Facebook Group and the videos I love so much because I might, just might be considering taking you into the gym with me (to join our Facebook Group go to http://www.facebook.com and then search the family room). I have found that so many of us get 'stuck' on the couch, watching those darn infomercials and forget that we actually have to get up, put on our joggers (running shoes) and get moving. Through sharing my routine with a few friends and just a few very simple things I am doing somehow I think I've managed to de-mystify the dreaded exercise routine and make it do-able for everyone. I just need you to promise not to laugh at my outfit - don't worry I ditched the late 90's thong number with the spandex.....what a disaster that was!!!!!
So today, January 28, 2008 allow me to be that voice of encouragement once more that would say, "come on people let's move, let's make a difference in our own lives and the lives of those depending on us!" You won't regret making a change, I can tell you that I feel so much better today than I did January 2007 (prior to getting serious) and I know January 2009 is going to be amazing as I continue to build Health and Fitness into my life.
Let's get moving!
Susan
Friday, January 25, 2008
Chicken Surprise!
Here's a new kind of post for everyone. Sam Cosatto sent the below email to me recently and I thought it was going to be a yummy recipe for the blog. To my surprise it was something that made me giggle. A clean little bit of laughter that you can share with your children, your spouse or your grandparents.
Enjoy!
A couple goes for a meal at a Chinese restaurant and orders the "Chicken Surprise." The waiter brings the meal, served in a lidded cast iron pot.
Just as the wife is about to serve herself, the lid of the pot rises slightly and she briefly sees two beady little eyes looking around before the lid slams back down.
"Good grief, did you see that?" she asks her husband. He hasn't, so she asks him to look in the pot. He reaches for it and again the lid rises, and he sees two little eyes looking around before it slams down.
Rather perturbed, he calls the waiter over, explains what is happening, and demands an explanation.
"Please sir," says the waiter, "what you order?" The husband replies, "Chicken Surprise."
You're going to love this..................
"Ah! So sorry," says the waiter, "I bring you Peeking Duck!"
Enjoy!
A couple goes for a meal at a Chinese restaurant and orders the "Chicken Surprise." The waiter brings the meal, served in a lidded cast iron pot.
Just as the wife is about to serve herself, the lid of the pot rises slightly and she briefly sees two beady little eyes looking around before the lid slams back down.
"Good grief, did you see that?" she asks her husband. He hasn't, so she asks him to look in the pot. He reaches for it and again the lid rises, and he sees two little eyes looking around before it slams down.
Rather perturbed, he calls the waiter over, explains what is happening, and demands an explanation.
"Please sir," says the waiter, "what you order?" The husband replies, "Chicken Surprise."
You're going to love this..................
"Ah! So sorry," says the waiter, "I bring you Peeking Duck!"
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Drugs, Drugs and more Drugs! When is enough ~ enough?
Today I’m going to revisit an article that I wrote and posted on our blogspot on November 28, 2007. The article was titled ‘The War on Drugs’ and I encourage you to pull it up and have a read (simply visit our blogspot and check out November archives).
I am again reminded of this vicious War and all out attack on our children, young adults and older, by the recent death of actor Heath Ledger. Drugs are changing our world and we must encourage open conversations in our homes and through our extended relationships about the danger of drugs and the affect they ARE and CAN have in all of our lives.
The harsh and sad reality is that drugs are made available to all of us. Not only are they found on the school ground, the street, in the work environment but they are in our own homes in the form of prescription medication ~ a new way to use, that is rapidly growing (again I urge you to read our article called ‘The War on Drugs’ for more information about prescription drug use).
The average age of regular drug usage is lowing daily. According to a report I heard recently only 50% of parents talk to their children about illegal drugs and only 30% talk to them about prescription drugs. This problem is real and none of us are exempt. Our children are being exposed earlier and we as parents and in some cased grandparents or care-givers aren’t talking about it enough which is causing our children to be ill equipped to handle the pressure and influences they face on a daily basis. We MUST keep the lines of communication open.
We need to stand up taller, speak louder and know that our voice matters both on the macro side of this WAR and the micro (in our homes). Talk to your children, show them examples of what drug use CAN and WILL do to them. Don’t be afraid to show them the reality that may lie behind the first hit of anything. Lives are hanging in the balance.
Heath Ledger a 28-year old young man and father is gone. I believe he will be remembered as a great actor and all that he brought to the world of entertainment, however louder than his acting ability will be the fact that his early death was caused by ‘suspected drug use’.
Let’s not put up with anymore ‘useless’ deaths, let’s not run the risk with our children anymore. When was the last time you talked to your children, whatever ever their age, about drugs? Do it today and keep them safe.
Susan
I am again reminded of this vicious War and all out attack on our children, young adults and older, by the recent death of actor Heath Ledger. Drugs are changing our world and we must encourage open conversations in our homes and through our extended relationships about the danger of drugs and the affect they ARE and CAN have in all of our lives.
The harsh and sad reality is that drugs are made available to all of us. Not only are they found on the school ground, the street, in the work environment but they are in our own homes in the form of prescription medication ~ a new way to use, that is rapidly growing (again I urge you to read our article called ‘The War on Drugs’ for more information about prescription drug use).
The average age of regular drug usage is lowing daily. According to a report I heard recently only 50% of parents talk to their children about illegal drugs and only 30% talk to them about prescription drugs. This problem is real and none of us are exempt. Our children are being exposed earlier and we as parents and in some cased grandparents or care-givers aren’t talking about it enough which is causing our children to be ill equipped to handle the pressure and influences they face on a daily basis. We MUST keep the lines of communication open.
We need to stand up taller, speak louder and know that our voice matters both on the macro side of this WAR and the micro (in our homes). Talk to your children, show them examples of what drug use CAN and WILL do to them. Don’t be afraid to show them the reality that may lie behind the first hit of anything. Lives are hanging in the balance.
Heath Ledger a 28-year old young man and father is gone. I believe he will be remembered as a great actor and all that he brought to the world of entertainment, however louder than his acting ability will be the fact that his early death was caused by ‘suspected drug use’.
Let’s not put up with anymore ‘useless’ deaths, let’s not run the risk with our children anymore. When was the last time you talked to your children, whatever ever their age, about drugs? Do it today and keep them safe.
Susan
Tuesday, January 22, 2008
Something for the Girls.......
Hi Friends,
I’m broaching one of those subjects that we “all know about” (like self breast examination) and are mostly slack at doing. What am I talking about today....... The Pelvic Floor Exercise!!!!!! I know everyone is squirming now as they read on.
I first learnt about pelvic floor exercises as an RN. As I studied to be a midwife the importance of the Pelvic Floor became more apparent. My complete revelation however, occurred after having had three vaginal deliveries. Do I have any friends out there….?!!
So friends in the interest of your pelvic floors and in an effort to assist you move towards dry undies, the ability to cough or laugh without fear plus the dreaded unexpected sneeze and of course the best part ~ better sex I shall share some much needed info with you.
What is it all about?
The pelvic floor is like a hammock stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone.. The pelvic floor muscles play an important role in bladder and bowel control and sexual sensation. Pelvic floor muscles can be weakened by, pregnancy and childbirth, chronic constipation, regular heavy lifting, menopause, being overweight and unfit.
What you can do:
It is important not to hold your breath, squeeze your buttocks or thighs or push down when doing these exercises.
The muscles you wish to tighten are the same ones you use when you want to stop passing wind or if you were to stop your flow of urine mid-stream (not recommended).
1. Tightening and drawing in around the anus, the vagina and the urethra all at once, lifting them UP inside. Try and hold this contraction strongly as you count to five then release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of 'letting go'.
2. Repeat ('squeeze and lift') and relax. It is important to rest for about 10 seconds in between each contraction. If you find it easy to hold for a count of five, try to hold for longer - up to ten seconds.
3. Repeat this as many times as you are able up to a maximum of 8-10 squeezes.
4. Now do five to ten short, fast, but
5. Strong contractions.
6. Do this whole exercise routine at least 4-5 times every day.
Remind yourself to do your exercises by associating them with a common task like washing your hands. I have a friend who has a couple of yellow spots stuck around the house, she does her exercises when she sees the spot. Go for it girls, you will thank me in days, weeks, months and especially in years to come.
Annie
I’m broaching one of those subjects that we “all know about” (like self breast examination) and are mostly slack at doing. What am I talking about today....... The Pelvic Floor Exercise!!!!!! I know everyone is squirming now as they read on.
I first learnt about pelvic floor exercises as an RN. As I studied to be a midwife the importance of the Pelvic Floor became more apparent. My complete revelation however, occurred after having had three vaginal deliveries. Do I have any friends out there….?!!
So friends in the interest of your pelvic floors and in an effort to assist you move towards dry undies, the ability to cough or laugh without fear plus the dreaded unexpected sneeze and of course the best part ~ better sex I shall share some much needed info with you.
What is it all about?
The pelvic floor is like a hammock stretching from your tail bone to your pubic bone.. The pelvic floor muscles play an important role in bladder and bowel control and sexual sensation. Pelvic floor muscles can be weakened by, pregnancy and childbirth, chronic constipation, regular heavy lifting, menopause, being overweight and unfit.
What you can do:
It is important not to hold your breath, squeeze your buttocks or thighs or push down when doing these exercises.
The muscles you wish to tighten are the same ones you use when you want to stop passing wind or if you were to stop your flow of urine mid-stream (not recommended).
1. Tightening and drawing in around the anus, the vagina and the urethra all at once, lifting them UP inside. Try and hold this contraction strongly as you count to five then release and relax. You should have a definite feeling of 'letting go'.
2. Repeat ('squeeze and lift') and relax. It is important to rest for about 10 seconds in between each contraction. If you find it easy to hold for a count of five, try to hold for longer - up to ten seconds.
3. Repeat this as many times as you are able up to a maximum of 8-10 squeezes.
4. Now do five to ten short, fast, but
5. Strong contractions.
6. Do this whole exercise routine at least 4-5 times every day.
Remind yourself to do your exercises by associating them with a common task like washing your hands. I have a friend who has a couple of yellow spots stuck around the house, she does her exercises when she sees the spot. Go for it girls, you will thank me in days, weeks, months and especially in years to come.
Annie
Thursday, January 17, 2008
A Life Beyond Yourself
Hello to everyone. I find myself writing this with a smile on my face because I am sitting in the Toyota Dealership. I have just dropped my car off for a service and I wondered what I was going to do for the 1.5 hour wait (if there was no one to talk to....I love talking). Much to my surprise not only is there hot coffee and tea, muffins, bottled water and juice on hand but Internet access! Who would have thought that local car dealerships would provide so much ~ a strong bid for our business I guess and today Toyota is tops for me. I'm able to accomplish multiple tasks while sitting waiting for my car.
If you haven't already read Sam's recent post 'What's Good for You' I encourage you to do so. The post is all about 'acts of kindness' and how being kind and doing things for others can benefit our health. This is something I've been thinking about lately not so much from a health perspective but through the lives of our children. I am convinced that one way to keep our children out of harms way (whatever their ages) and away from some of the things that are available to them and seem appealing, is through being involved in something beyond themselves. Being part of something that not only occupies time but thought life as well, is a valuable part of all of our lives. You know what is said about idleness.
I think (and remember this is MY thinking) that as parents, we can get busy and sadly our children are the one's who pay the price. During these 'busy' times children will find things to connect to/with and before long we're asking how they got involved in that, or why they have changed. Sadly I've had conversations with many parents about how they can't get their teenager off the computer or out of their bedroom. Parents tell me that conversations have turned to grunting when passing in the hallway rather than the meaningful conversations, they once shared, covering the things that matter in their world.
It is our responsibility to help our children find things that will ignite something within them. Helping them live a life beyond themselves is a valuable life lesson that will help propel them into the future. When your thoughts are consumed by bigger and greater things and ways that you can make a difference or be involved, the world looks so different and so much more inviting. There is a need within each one of us to belong to something and to find our own significance.
Our children are learning about things earlier than we did, and in some cases they are experiencing things earlier as well. Whether that's right or wrong it's happening and we need to help them navigate this delicate season of their lives.
Today my 6.5 year old headed off to school with $10.00 of his own pocket money to give to a mission's project the school is involved in. He has displayed and shared his thoughts towards helping the poor many times and today he put action to his words. It is now Philip and my responsiblity to help him carve out a way that he can make a difference in this area. He obviously has a soft heart towards people and we need to put tools in his hand that will help him develop this amazing area of his life. This is an example of a young boy living a life beyond himself and we need to let him know that he can make a difference, we need to encourage him to dream, we need to let him try.
I want to encourage you to listen to your children, really listen and find out what makes them tick. Everyone has a dream and that dream is unique to each individual ~ don't expect all your children to share the same dream. Help your children see their dream become a reality and again remember it doesn't matter what age your children are. This year I will be celebrating my 38th birthday and my parents continue to help me carve out my dream. They listen to me, they discuss things with me, they share their ideas with me and I'm so thankful for that. So, if you have a 6.5 year old like me or your baby is 14, 18, 19 ,20 or 38 help them navigate the waters of life.
Finally I would like to ask if you would share your thoughts on how you can or how you have helped your children live lives beyond themselves. Where you have seen success? What are some great ideas you can share with thefamilyroom community?
Susan
If you haven't already read Sam's recent post 'What's Good for You' I encourage you to do so. The post is all about 'acts of kindness' and how being kind and doing things for others can benefit our health. This is something I've been thinking about lately not so much from a health perspective but through the lives of our children. I am convinced that one way to keep our children out of harms way (whatever their ages) and away from some of the things that are available to them and seem appealing, is through being involved in something beyond themselves. Being part of something that not only occupies time but thought life as well, is a valuable part of all of our lives. You know what is said about idleness.
I think (and remember this is MY thinking) that as parents, we can get busy and sadly our children are the one's who pay the price. During these 'busy' times children will find things to connect to/with and before long we're asking how they got involved in that, or why they have changed. Sadly I've had conversations with many parents about how they can't get their teenager off the computer or out of their bedroom. Parents tell me that conversations have turned to grunting when passing in the hallway rather than the meaningful conversations, they once shared, covering the things that matter in their world.
It is our responsibility to help our children find things that will ignite something within them. Helping them live a life beyond themselves is a valuable life lesson that will help propel them into the future. When your thoughts are consumed by bigger and greater things and ways that you can make a difference or be involved, the world looks so different and so much more inviting. There is a need within each one of us to belong to something and to find our own significance.
Our children are learning about things earlier than we did, and in some cases they are experiencing things earlier as well. Whether that's right or wrong it's happening and we need to help them navigate this delicate season of their lives.
Today my 6.5 year old headed off to school with $10.00 of his own pocket money to give to a mission's project the school is involved in. He has displayed and shared his thoughts towards helping the poor many times and today he put action to his words. It is now Philip and my responsiblity to help him carve out a way that he can make a difference in this area. He obviously has a soft heart towards people and we need to put tools in his hand that will help him develop this amazing area of his life. This is an example of a young boy living a life beyond himself and we need to let him know that he can make a difference, we need to encourage him to dream, we need to let him try.
I want to encourage you to listen to your children, really listen and find out what makes them tick. Everyone has a dream and that dream is unique to each individual ~ don't expect all your children to share the same dream. Help your children see their dream become a reality and again remember it doesn't matter what age your children are. This year I will be celebrating my 38th birthday and my parents continue to help me carve out my dream. They listen to me, they discuss things with me, they share their ideas with me and I'm so thankful for that. So, if you have a 6.5 year old like me or your baby is 14, 18, 19 ,20 or 38 help them navigate the waters of life.
Finally I would like to ask if you would share your thoughts on how you can or how you have helped your children live lives beyond themselves. Where you have seen success? What are some great ideas you can share with thefamilyroom community?
Susan
Monday, January 14, 2008
What's Good For You
Well here we are over two weeks into 2008. Christmas and New Year are quickly fading into all of our memories and we starting to make tracks in 08.
As we journey through this year I thought it would be a good idea to share about something that studies have proven to be good for all of us! We all want health and wellness so here is a little something that WILL help you and guess what? It's super simple and it doesn't have to cost a cent!!!!
According to many studies "doing good" is good for you. It has been shown that people who volunteer, live longer and are healthier. I think it's similar to that old saying, "laughter is one of the best medicines." Like laughter a helping hand can bring health and wellbeing, to anyone who chooses to extend themselves.
According to one author who studied thousands of "do gooders" other benefits include increased optimism and energy, decreased feelings of loneliness and depression, better weight control, a greater sense of relaxation and improved sleep. Who doesn't want all of that in life?
The beginning of the year seems like a perfect time to volunteer or perform random acts of kindness on those we love and those we don't even know. Be creative and involve your family and friends. A perfect way to keep children (whatever the age) safe and out of trouble or anything else is to set their eyes on something beyond themselves (watch for an upcoming article from Susan on this ~ it's a good one!).
A few ideas on how to help:
Cook a meal for a neighbor (maybe they have a busy week).
Rake someone’s yard and rid them of unwanted leaves
Shovel Snow from a driveway
Clean up the back yard/pool area
Clean out and organize someone’s garage
Pay for a meal at a café
Pay the toll for the person behind you
Baby-sit for someone and give a much needed break
Do someone's laundry (remind them we've all seen dirty undies....)
Clean a car
Invite someone over for dinner ~ you never know where loneliness lives.
I am putting the challenge out to my familyroom buddies so get ready for them to share what they’ve done. Let's spread a little kindness. The opportunities are ENDLESS!
FYI....we will be putting this out to our Facebook Group so jump on and share your stories of kindness with us and let’s encourage each other. Also, share your stories here.
Take care and together let's make a huge difference in this world.
Sam
As we journey through this year I thought it would be a good idea to share about something that studies have proven to be good for all of us! We all want health and wellness so here is a little something that WILL help you and guess what? It's super simple and it doesn't have to cost a cent!!!!
According to many studies "doing good" is good for you. It has been shown that people who volunteer, live longer and are healthier. I think it's similar to that old saying, "laughter is one of the best medicines." Like laughter a helping hand can bring health and wellbeing, to anyone who chooses to extend themselves.
According to one author who studied thousands of "do gooders" other benefits include increased optimism and energy, decreased feelings of loneliness and depression, better weight control, a greater sense of relaxation and improved sleep. Who doesn't want all of that in life?
The beginning of the year seems like a perfect time to volunteer or perform random acts of kindness on those we love and those we don't even know. Be creative and involve your family and friends. A perfect way to keep children (whatever the age) safe and out of trouble or anything else is to set their eyes on something beyond themselves (watch for an upcoming article from Susan on this ~ it's a good one!).
A few ideas on how to help:
Cook a meal for a neighbor (maybe they have a busy week).
Rake someone’s yard and rid them of unwanted leaves
Shovel Snow from a driveway
Clean up the back yard/pool area
Clean out and organize someone’s garage
Pay for a meal at a café
Pay the toll for the person behind you
Baby-sit for someone and give a much needed break
Do someone's laundry (remind them we've all seen dirty undies....)
Clean a car
Invite someone over for dinner ~ you never know where loneliness lives.
I am putting the challenge out to my familyroom buddies so get ready for them to share what they’ve done. Let's spread a little kindness. The opportunities are ENDLESS!
FYI....we will be putting this out to our Facebook Group so jump on and share your stories of kindness with us and let’s encourage each other. Also, share your stories here.
Take care and together let's make a huge difference in this world.
Sam
Wednesday, January 09, 2008
Summer Apples
Have you ever found yourself traveling through life and in a moment you are thrown back in time due to a smell, song on the radio, or just a feeling in the air?
Well friends let me share my today with you.
After a busy holiday season, I have finally had a day to myself to reflect and project. We are over one week into the new year, and today was my day to consider the days, weeks and months ahead of me. There are changes in the wind for us (as a family), risks to be taken, advances to be made, and with all of this comes a certain level of uncertainty. I know all of you reading know exactly what I’m talking about. I spent much of my morning on and off the phone with my mother, passing things by her, talking my way through the waters that I’m navigating. I am so blessed to have a mother who simply listens (endlessly....poor woman), she gives me suggestions, and shares bits and pieces from her journey, allowing me to extract what I want and need from her story. Words from wiser, well traveled people are almost like an anti virus serum that can protect us from contracting unnecessary situations as we travel through life.
Moving along......my youngest daughter and I needed to do some much needed unpacking of our ‘holiday car’ ~ you know the drill, candy canes stuck to the carpet, dirt, grim and mud everywhere, the odd dried up MacDonald’s fry in between the seats, spilled Starbucks in the cup holders....fun, fun, fun. As we headed to the garage I walked straight into and old familiar smell, that as I said threw me straight back to my childhood years. It was the smell of Summer Apples, that came every year when the fruit truck arrived in our community. The smell of those apples saturated us, and it’s a smell I associate with my younger years.
I remember the excitement, knowing that the fruit truck was soon to arrive at our neighbors house (the same house every year). The day it would arrive, we would pile into the car, the windows down (no air conditioning then), the radio was on, and away we went in search of the best fruit in town. There were peaches, pears, cherries, apricots and the plums.....yummo. Strangely enough the apple was the smell that permeated the air.
So, today some 30 years later, I have found myself considering the year/s ahead. Uncertainty filled my mind, moments of fear tried to creep in, concern definitely found a home, and as I walked toward the job at hand, within a millisecond I was thrown back to a place in time where everything stood still. I could see my mother negotiating her purchases, I could hear the voices of my childhood friends, I could see the strange old fruit man standing on the truck yelling out prices, and I could taste the sweetness of the peaches that were on sample for all to try. In that millisecond every thought I had exercised today was brought back into perspective for me. I felt safe and secure in the knowledge that no matter what lies ahead, it will be okay, the days will turn into weeks, the weeks into years and we will remain standing.
I pray that in my home and through my children’s childhood there are familiar smells, sounds and feelings that in 30 more years will bring the same feeling I have felt today. It is our today’s that make the difference in tomorrow and beyond. Be wise, be happy and love lots!
Susan xo
Tuesday, January 08, 2008
A Belated Happy New Year!
Hello again and Happy New Year to everyone from all of us at thefamilyroom!!!!! We have all missed communicating with you but trust you had a lovely Christmas and New Year. I know a few of you were bummed that we ‘stopped production’ during the holidays but hey everyone needs a break to simply hang with family and friends (maybe we’ll do it differently next year). We’re glad you missed us!!
I don’t know about you but I’m finding it hard to believe that the holidays are over and we are now into 2008 - I’m still at New Year’s Eve singing that Prince song, “Tonight I’m going to party like it’s 1999!!!!”
Honestly where are the years going? I don’t remember time flying like this when I was younger. Isn’t it funny that as a child, time almost felt like it stood still (at times) and if it moved you were able to catch it because you had so much energy. Now, as an adult, I find that time is flying at the speed of light and I no longer have that incredible energy to run after it and possibly even beat it. Thank goodness for thefamilyroom tips, ideas, lists and plans, if I didn’t have them I think I may simply fall off the edge of the world.
We had the best time in 2007 refining thefamilyroom and journeying with all of you.
The Blog:
Through our stats we know that many of you are reading the blog but haven’t crossed the line and started commenting and that’s okay, we love that you are ‘with’ us. Keep reading and keep sharing with your friends. To those of you who are commenting (katie lady, ohwise1, thewinner, Denise, justme, kg, Sahra, catherine jayne...just to name a few) thank you!!! It’s nice to hear some of your thoughts and your encouragement – keep them coming and keep sharing your stories
Facebook:
Our Facebook Group is now up and running and we will continue with that starting this week. It is a stack of fun so make sure you jump on and invite some friends. We really want to build a strong group and a place where we can share thoughts, ideas and other bits about building our families and our communities. It’s a great communication tool and SO easy so join us there.
New in 08:
2008 will see a number of new familyroom initiatives which are all really exciting – we will keep you posted and up to date on everything so don’t worry....you’ll all be the first to know!!
The first thing - Since thefamilyroom started I have been asked by a number of ‘guys’ how we will include the boys/men in thefamilyroom community, they love what we are doing and have done thus far however they seem to want a little more. That being said, this isn’t just for the boys/men so girls get ready.
Within the next 60 days (hopefully earlier, we’ll keep you posted) we will be launching a very new blog that will challenge the mind, encourage the soul, cause you to think in different ways and will take you to new places. It’s going to be great so let the boys/men know and watch this space friends!
I think I will stop for now. We really, really love what we are doing, we love family and community and we love that you are part of this community so stay with us, buckle up your seatbelt, put the little one’s in the car seat and together let’s continue driving on this road toward more.
As always, remember that the world looks better through smiling eyes and know that you aren’t alone, we’re doing this together.
Keep it simple but keep it real,
Susan J. Sohn
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Tune in, tone up
A few weeks ago, my interest in the gym didn’t so much hit a plateau – it nose-dived spectacularly into a tail-spin of boredom and monotony.
The treadmill had become a chore, the bike was boring beyond belief and even my personal favourite, the cross-trainer, failed to rekindle my waning desire to work out. Hands up if you’ve been there.
I tried plugging in the headphones and watching TV but that didn’t work for me. I became so absorbed in the programs that my brisk walk turned into an afternoon stroll. The music channel seemed like a good idea but, call me old-fashioned, scantily-clad girls lamenting their lost loves and singing of plans to exact terrible revenge on their exes just left me cold.
Finally, I hit upon the idea of compiling a workout playlist for the iPod. Perhaps I’m slow on the uptake, it just hadn’t occurred to me to do this before.
But you know what, it worked so well. I chose a few fast tunes for the 40 minutes of cardio then some favourite crooners to slow the pace for a cool down. It’s hard to believe something so simple could make such a big difference. My energy and motivation were renewed.
So today, lucky ladies and gentlemen, I am sharing with you my Number 1 motivational, workout playlist. Give it a whirl or make one of your own, then when the excesses of the festive season are over you can, quite literally, hit the ground running with a new fitness regime!
Click on the song titles to go to a website where you can hear a snippet from them. Then click the little speaker symbol and they will launch in Windows Media Player.
Cardio:
If you could read my mind – Amber
Love Generation – Bob Sinclair
Destination Calabria – Alex Gaudino
Kung Fu Fighting – Carl Douglas
Mambo No 5 – Lou Bega
Bingo Bango – Basement Jaxx
We’re Going to Ibiza – Venga Boys
You’re The First, the Last, My Everything – Barry White
20 Good Reasons – Thirsty Merc
Hot Hot Hot – Bina Mistry
Cooldown:
Put Your Records On – Corinne Bailey Rae
Grace – U2
Fix You – Coldplay
That's all for today. Enjoy your workout and some of my favorites. Have a very Merry Christmas and an amazing New Year.
Deborah
The treadmill had become a chore, the bike was boring beyond belief and even my personal favourite, the cross-trainer, failed to rekindle my waning desire to work out. Hands up if you’ve been there.
I tried plugging in the headphones and watching TV but that didn’t work for me. I became so absorbed in the programs that my brisk walk turned into an afternoon stroll. The music channel seemed like a good idea but, call me old-fashioned, scantily-clad girls lamenting their lost loves and singing of plans to exact terrible revenge on their exes just left me cold.
Finally, I hit upon the idea of compiling a workout playlist for the iPod. Perhaps I’m slow on the uptake, it just hadn’t occurred to me to do this before.
But you know what, it worked so well. I chose a few fast tunes for the 40 minutes of cardio then some favourite crooners to slow the pace for a cool down. It’s hard to believe something so simple could make such a big difference. My energy and motivation were renewed.
So today, lucky ladies and gentlemen, I am sharing with you my Number 1 motivational, workout playlist. Give it a whirl or make one of your own, then when the excesses of the festive season are over you can, quite literally, hit the ground running with a new fitness regime!
Click on the song titles to go to a website where you can hear a snippet from them. Then click the little speaker symbol and they will launch in Windows Media Player.
Cardio:
If you could read my mind – Amber
Love Generation – Bob Sinclair
Destination Calabria – Alex Gaudino
Kung Fu Fighting – Carl Douglas
Mambo No 5 – Lou Bega
Bingo Bango – Basement Jaxx
We’re Going to Ibiza – Venga Boys
You’re The First, the Last, My Everything – Barry White
20 Good Reasons – Thirsty Merc
Hot Hot Hot – Bina Mistry
Cooldown:
Put Your Records On – Corinne Bailey Rae
Grace – U2
Fix You – Coldplay
That's all for today. Enjoy your workout and some of my favorites. Have a very Merry Christmas and an amazing New Year.
Deborah
Sunday, December 16, 2007
The 80-20 Rule
I guess most of us have heard of the "80 - 20 Rule" (formerly Pareto's Principle). Its origins go back to around 1897 when Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto observed that 80 percent of the land was owned by 20 percent of the people. Since then, this theory has been applied to almost every sphere of modern life.
I have mainly heard this used along the lines of 20 percent of the people doing 80 percent of the work. But I have recently read about applying it to personal time management. When applied this way - it means that 20 percent of your efforts produce 80 percent of the results. In other words there is the critical few and the trivial many.
I am now trying to identify the vital things in my day and focus on getting those done and it's amazing how the rest takes care of itself.
Now all you organised, choleric types are saying "der", but for someone a little more "relaxed" like me, this can be a revelation.
Hope someone finds this helpful!
Sam
Wednesday, December 12, 2007
Time Matters
It seems funny to be writing about time management at this busy time of the year when we are experiencing out of control concerts, late nights mixed with the sugar rushes, excitement and shopping, shopping, shopping and one more trip to the shops for that last ingredient for the rum balls…and the story continues…
Doing things well is about stopping in the midst of the craziness and taking TIME to remember what it’s all about (especially during this beautiful season). For me that means:
A celebration of faith and TIME with family and friends.
Taking the TIME to stop and smile at someone instead of getting shoppers/road/airport/petrol station rage.
Taking the TIME to let the kids wrap the presents even though they look a bit dog eared and dodgy!
Taking the TIME to turn Mariah Carey up loud and sing like a crazy person and enjoy it.
Allowing the kitchen to be a mess for a while so everyone can be involved with the Christmas baking and letting the kids play a part in choosing a part of the meal.
Taking the TIME to create your own traditions.
Taking the TIME to count your blessings.
Taking the TIME to consider those less fortunate and what your contribution could be to easing their suffering.
We went shopping today (again) so the kids could choose presents for my hubby and myself while I waited outside. They were so excited and I’m so glad I took the TIME to let them choose heaven knows what (they were given a budget) then wrap it at home and stick it under the tree.
This is the TIME of year to manage our TIME moment by moment and make every effort to enjoy each special one…..New Year’s Eve will come around soon enough and we’ll be resolving to make 2008 a TIME of efficiency with our lists and structure…until then, take a deep breath, create some great memories and enjoy the ride.
Lv Jane
Doing things well is about stopping in the midst of the craziness and taking TIME to remember what it’s all about (especially during this beautiful season). For me that means:
A celebration of faith and TIME with family and friends.
Taking the TIME to stop and smile at someone instead of getting shoppers/road/airport/petrol station rage.
Taking the TIME to let the kids wrap the presents even though they look a bit dog eared and dodgy!
Taking the TIME to turn Mariah Carey up loud and sing like a crazy person and enjoy it.
Allowing the kitchen to be a mess for a while so everyone can be involved with the Christmas baking and letting the kids play a part in choosing a part of the meal.
Taking the TIME to create your own traditions.
Taking the TIME to count your blessings.
Taking the TIME to consider those less fortunate and what your contribution could be to easing their suffering.
We went shopping today (again) so the kids could choose presents for my hubby and myself while I waited outside. They were so excited and I’m so glad I took the TIME to let them choose heaven knows what (they were given a budget) then wrap it at home and stick it under the tree.
This is the TIME of year to manage our TIME moment by moment and make every effort to enjoy each special one…..New Year’s Eve will come around soon enough and we’ll be resolving to make 2008 a TIME of efficiency with our lists and structure…until then, take a deep breath, create some great memories and enjoy the ride.
Lv Jane
Sunday, December 09, 2007
A Date to Remember
So last night was just one of those nights that I will remember for a long time. It was nothing flash, rather extremely simple and in it’s simplicity it was simply amazing (how many times can I use the word or a derivative of simple?). Anyway it started like this….
My hubby was out running errands and I was home making a gingerbread house with the children (that was super fun!) and I called him and said, “hey how bout a babysitter tonight and let’s go Christmas shopping?” To which he replied, “yeah sure, why not.” I quickly called the babysitter, arranged for Philip to pick him up and YAHOO we were going out…totally unplanned and unexpected.
We decided to leave the car and walk (we are currently living in a rather ‘urban’ area). Our night was open and we were simply going wherever we were drawn. First we found ourselves in a Christmas shop looking at all the beautiful Christmas decorations and then we found ourselves at a Japanese/Korean restaurant where we enjoyed very simple, inexpensive food. Our conversation was great and we noticed no one else in the restaurant (for anyone who knows me that’s strange because I ALWAYS know what’s going on all around me). After dinner we walked the streets window shopping, talking and laughing. At one point I was laughing so hard Philip noticed that I had tears rolling down my cheeks.
Slowly we made our way home ~ so much for the Christmas shopping! We had a great night together and I realised once again why I love this man and how important it is to take time just to BE together and rediscover each other. We commented (last night) about how we both hope that at 70 we are still enjoying one another as much as we did last night. As we continue to deposit into and work on our relationship I’m confident we will remain enjoying one another. I believe the years will just make it all that much richer because we will have even more memories both of the hard times, that we’ve made it through, and the great times; that we’ve shared together.
I encourage you all to take time and enjoy a simple day/night together. As hard as it can be, try and forget the ‘issues’ of the day/world and just BE together. Talk about the time you met, talk about the way you made each other feel and stir up some of the goodness that sits between both of you but sadly can get lost in the mix of life. Your partnership is worth working on……..
So, I will sign off now with a smile on my face remembering every moment of last night. Truly a DATE TO REMEMBER!
Susan
My hubby was out running errands and I was home making a gingerbread house with the children (that was super fun!) and I called him and said, “hey how bout a babysitter tonight and let’s go Christmas shopping?” To which he replied, “yeah sure, why not.” I quickly called the babysitter, arranged for Philip to pick him up and YAHOO we were going out…totally unplanned and unexpected.
We decided to leave the car and walk (we are currently living in a rather ‘urban’ area). Our night was open and we were simply going wherever we were drawn. First we found ourselves in a Christmas shop looking at all the beautiful Christmas decorations and then we found ourselves at a Japanese/Korean restaurant where we enjoyed very simple, inexpensive food. Our conversation was great and we noticed no one else in the restaurant (for anyone who knows me that’s strange because I ALWAYS know what’s going on all around me). After dinner we walked the streets window shopping, talking and laughing. At one point I was laughing so hard Philip noticed that I had tears rolling down my cheeks.
Slowly we made our way home ~ so much for the Christmas shopping! We had a great night together and I realised once again why I love this man and how important it is to take time just to BE together and rediscover each other. We commented (last night) about how we both hope that at 70 we are still enjoying one another as much as we did last night. As we continue to deposit into and work on our relationship I’m confident we will remain enjoying one another. I believe the years will just make it all that much richer because we will have even more memories both of the hard times, that we’ve made it through, and the great times; that we’ve shared together.
I encourage you all to take time and enjoy a simple day/night together. As hard as it can be, try and forget the ‘issues’ of the day/world and just BE together. Talk about the time you met, talk about the way you made each other feel and stir up some of the goodness that sits between both of you but sadly can get lost in the mix of life. Your partnership is worth working on……..
So, I will sign off now with a smile on my face remembering every moment of last night. Truly a DATE TO REMEMBER!
Susan
Wednesday, December 05, 2007
Begin With The End In Mind.....
What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters
Compared to what lies within us
Oliver Wendell Holmes.
I was interviewing someone for an article recently and I finished by asking them this question: “How would you like to be remembered?” They paused for a moment, and then answered. It got me thinking: How would I like to be remembered? This is a question I had never really asked myself. Or, morbidly still, what would I like people to say about me at my funeral. If my eulogy involved my nicely decorated house, great writing or how well I dressed I was – I’ve failed. But if those closest to me honour with words like kindness, compassion, generousity, love for God, commitment to her family etc – then I’ll be smiling in my casket. In Stephen Covey’s best selling book: ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective people,’ he takes this thought even further.
See yourself going to a funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking your car and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice flowers, soft music playing (which sounds like that favourite song of yours). You see the faces of your family and friends. You sense the loss.
As you walk down to the front of the chapel and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral. All of these people have come to honour you and to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take your seat and wait for the service to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers: a family member, a friend, a work colleague and someone from your church. Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of mother, wife would you like those words to reflect. What kind or friend were you or working associate. What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements do you want to be remembered for? What difference would you like to have made?
Doing this exercise, as sad as it seems, can often re-set your internal navigation system. Maybe you have to make a u turn, or simply a short right turn, before the automated voice inside you says: “your destination is ahead.” It’s never too late to change. Start now. Begin tomorrow with the end in mind.
Nicki Partridge
Compared to what lies within us
Oliver Wendell Holmes.
I was interviewing someone for an article recently and I finished by asking them this question: “How would you like to be remembered?” They paused for a moment, and then answered. It got me thinking: How would I like to be remembered? This is a question I had never really asked myself. Or, morbidly still, what would I like people to say about me at my funeral. If my eulogy involved my nicely decorated house, great writing or how well I dressed I was – I’ve failed. But if those closest to me honour with words like kindness, compassion, generousity, love for God, commitment to her family etc – then I’ll be smiling in my casket. In Stephen Covey’s best selling book: ‘Seven Habits of Highly Effective people,’ he takes this thought even further.
See yourself going to a funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking your car and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice flowers, soft music playing (which sounds like that favourite song of yours). You see the faces of your family and friends. You sense the loss.
As you walk down to the front of the chapel and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral. All of these people have come to honour you and to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take your seat and wait for the service to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers: a family member, a friend, a work colleague and someone from your church. Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of mother, wife would you like those words to reflect. What kind or friend were you or working associate. What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements do you want to be remembered for? What difference would you like to have made?
Doing this exercise, as sad as it seems, can often re-set your internal navigation system. Maybe you have to make a u turn, or simply a short right turn, before the automated voice inside you says: “your destination is ahead.” It’s never too late to change. Start now. Begin tomorrow with the end in mind.
Nicki Partridge
Tuesday, December 04, 2007
Panettone Bread and Butter Pudding!
Those of you who know me know that I don't eat a lot of Italian food unless it's at Sam's house or a good restaurant (I do however love a good veal parmigiana). Strangely it’s just not a food that I ever really got into cooking with the exception of the odd Spag Bog or Lasagna that my children request once in awhile. However after spending time at the gym and watching the food network whilst I work out (I know it’s a little strange) I have found that I have come to love watching Everyday Italian with Giada De Laurentiis. She seriously makes the most yummy looking food and is always so calm.
In preparation for our amazing Christmas Holiday, that we are spending with our friends the Cosatto’s (Sam’s family) and the Dell’s (Belinda’s family) I decided to ‘have a go’ with an Italian desert. So, in honor of Sam’s hubby, the great Italian man Tony, my eldest daughter and I stayed up later than normal, chatted non-stop and baked this morish, very (very) simple dish.
The main ingredient Panettone.....I’ve always seen this in almost every shop around Christmas time and have never known what it was. I always thought it was some cheap version of fruit cake so never bothered with it. That was until I asked Sam and she informed me that it was, in fact something really nice and loved by Italian people both young and old. So, I decided to buy it and try it. Below is the recipe we used and I promise you it is beyond simple, it could be the perfect dinner party desert or part of any families holiday food!
Panettone Bread and Butter Pudding (Giada De Laurentiis – Everyday Italian)
Ingredients:
575 mls of milk (don’t use 2% or full cream, use either 1% or skim)
575 mls double cream (thick, heavy cream)
1 vanilla pod (or just a tsp of vanilla if you don’t use pods)
4 medium eggs
170 grams caster sugar (the finest you can find but don’t stress use whatever you have ~ I did!)
Panettone, cut into thick slices and buttered (I didn’t butter, just seemed to rich)
1 orange zest
A little icing sugar
Method:
Preheat oven to 325 (160 degrees or #3 for Gas)
To start the custard base, bring the milk and cream just to a boil in a saucepan.
Cut the vanilla pod in half and scrape out the seeds (or just add your tsp of vanilla) and add the zest to the milk.
In a separate large bowl whisk the eggs and sugar until they are pale or well mixed.
Dip each slice of bread into the custard and then place in a well buttered baking tray (9x13 is best).
Once all the bread is in, use your hands an gently press everything down.
Pour remainder of custard slowly over the bread.
Bake for 45 minutes – when cooked it will be slightly wobbly inside with a slight crust around the edges.
Dust with a little icing sugar and serve with extra cream, even a little jam or just by itself with a nice cup of coffee!
Enjoy!
Monday, December 03, 2007
Celebrating Relationships
Hi all,
I’ve been a little quiet over the last month because we have been in the process of selling our home. I know some of you can relate. It’s amazing how tidy you have to the house because you never know when the agent is going to call ready to bring someone around...... With three (busy) children many of you will know what I’m talking about!
I’ve been thinking about what Susan said on the Facebook video today (if you aren’t on Facebook yet you should join up, it’s so much fun connecting with people plus you can join thefamilyroom Group) and I thought I would share a little something from the pages of our family in regards to people who make a difference.
The other day my 12 year old son was talking on the phone to his Grandparents in New Zealand. They have just returned from a trip overseas and Jacob (my son) was asking them all about it. He wasn’t just being ‘polite’ to the grandparents and doing as mum said by asking questions, he was really and truly interested. The conversation warmed my heart because I could see and hear that although an ocean separates us from them, the distance isn’t changing the relationship. An extremely important relationship I might add. I know that through the conversation both parties felt valued, Jacob because his Grandparents were talking to him in an age appropriate way and his Grandparents because he was interested in their lives ~ sadly sometimes Grandparents can be pushed to the sidelines of life and only thought about when gifts are due or help is needed.
Anyway I share this because I think it’s important that we remind each other, and teach our children, that life isn’t all about us. Rather we are part of a big puzzle and we need to value one another and share in life. So today I celebrate both my son and my husband’s parents. Little do either of them know how impacting their conversation was on my life.......I realised today my husband and I must be doing something right and that’s encouraging.
Belinda
I’ve been a little quiet over the last month because we have been in the process of selling our home. I know some of you can relate. It’s amazing how tidy you have to the house because you never know when the agent is going to call ready to bring someone around...... With three (busy) children many of you will know what I’m talking about!
I’ve been thinking about what Susan said on the Facebook video today (if you aren’t on Facebook yet you should join up, it’s so much fun connecting with people plus you can join thefamilyroom Group) and I thought I would share a little something from the pages of our family in regards to people who make a difference.
The other day my 12 year old son was talking on the phone to his Grandparents in New Zealand. They have just returned from a trip overseas and Jacob (my son) was asking them all about it. He wasn’t just being ‘polite’ to the grandparents and doing as mum said by asking questions, he was really and truly interested. The conversation warmed my heart because I could see and hear that although an ocean separates us from them, the distance isn’t changing the relationship. An extremely important relationship I might add. I know that through the conversation both parties felt valued, Jacob because his Grandparents were talking to him in an age appropriate way and his Grandparents because he was interested in their lives ~ sadly sometimes Grandparents can be pushed to the sidelines of life and only thought about when gifts are due or help is needed.
Anyway I share this because I think it’s important that we remind each other, and teach our children, that life isn’t all about us. Rather we are part of a big puzzle and we need to value one another and share in life. So today I celebrate both my son and my husband’s parents. Little do either of them know how impacting their conversation was on my life.......I realised today my husband and I must be doing something right and that’s encouraging.
Belinda
Sunday, December 02, 2007
Christmas Truffles
Well, here's another YUMMIE Christmas recipe that has become a 'must have' in our home. These come directly from one of thefamilyroom kitchen's.......Sam's kitchen and we all know anything that comes from Sam's kitchen is simple delightful.
Actually this another Christmas request from my children. Sam and her family will be joining ours and the Dell's for a white Christmas this year and last week I emailed Sam asking her if she would prepare these when we get together ~~ the request came straight from my children and you gotta trust the kids because they truly know what's good and what's not when it comes to Christmas treats!
So, without anything more here's the recipe for everyone to enjoy and share......BTW these, along with Jo's Christmas cookies make and excellent gift for anyone. Pop them in a little box with tissue or a Christmas tin and the perfect, cost effective gift is ready to GIVE.
CHRISTMAS TRUFFLES
(makes around 28)
SHOPPING LIST/Ingredients
200g coconut biscuits
100g blanched almonds, toasted
375g NESTLE White Melts, melted
1/4 cup cream
100g NESTLE Dark Melts, melted
Red and Green decoration (i.e. ready made icing, glace cherries)
METHOD
1) Crush biscuits and nuts in food processor (of just crush them under a rolling pin if a food processor isn't an option), combine with 1/2 the NESTLE White Melts and cream. Mix well.
2) Roll teaspoonfuls of mixture into small balls, refrigerate until firm.
3) Coat truffles in melted NESTLE Dark Melts. Refrigerate until firm.
4) Drizzle remaining NESTLE White Melts over each truffle.
5) Decorate with red and green to resemble holly.
Enjoy ;)
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